My friend had a really traumatic experience at her previous company. She had to deal with misogynistic culture, sexism and somewhat discrimination. She eventually left the company because she couldn’t take it anymore. We was having a conversation about what happened to her at her previous company at a house party. I told her I’m so sorry for her. Another friend (male) joined the conversation and said “That company is not that bad. I worked there for many years and it’s a great company.” I was so shocked how insensitive the comment was. But I knew he didn’t say it in a bad intention, but really?? I can understand as a privileged person, it might be hard for you to empathize, but it doesn’t mean it didn’t happen. Ignorance and denial of the situation scare me, sadden me and makes me angry. I sometimes see similar comments here on Blind. Please remember, if you never experienced any of stories shared here or other #metoo movements, you are very privileged and lucky. Please try to understand and think of the solution before you go into ignorance and denial mode.
I think timing was wrong. The other guy should have allowed two of you to continue on this empathetic conversation.
He didn't join your convo, he derailed it. It sounds like he was being defensive maybe in denial, if he had to accept your friend's story he would have to face some very uncomfortable truths about the company. Now that he 1.) Stopped the convo and 2.) Reassured himself that there isn't a problem, life can continue for him uninterrupted.
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Hi OP. this is also something that I struggle with almost everyday at work. And I constantly find myself googling "how to deal with people who always negates and belittles the things you say". I think I'm still working through it, but I'm slowly adjusting and understanding that those ppl will always exist, it's up to me to not let it affect me. In case anyone is wondering though, my conclusion from Google is that those people have low self esteem and feel the need to put others down so that they feel better about themselves.
Ohh that’s interesting that those ppl have low self esteem! But I think we really need more people acknowledge sexism at the work place and denial and ignorance doesn’t help the situation at all :( Thanks for sharing ur wisdom tho!!
Yes I agree. I never really thought sexism was a problem at the work place until recently. Finding myself being constantly interrupted midsentence, even my coworker going as far as telling me that I'm not a lady because I say the word shit. So I completely feel you.