First, as you can I see , I am in Faang! Ready to get Pipped any time! I am still working a bit, because I do not know what else to do! I hate it every single day, just waiting to hear news from my boss that it ended! (Not scared at all as I know I am getting into PIP soon.) Second, I applied at least for 100 jobs and I got just 2 call backs, neither proceeding further from first discussion! Next, My spouse, usually supportive about my career is already tired of the situation! May be the pressure of losing one job in house hold is building up! And I can understand there will be a limit to patience!(Though I feel, they ran out very soon!) One day they say, "just quit as you are stressed just waiting for severance"; other day they say, "just suck it up till they actually fire you, as at least we will be able to save some money and help us be comfortable till next job!" . almost zero emotional support! I am trying to stay positive that there will be ups and downs in everyones career and personal life! I am 40+ and just tired! How do I get through this?
The system gamed and squeezed you. Never too late to play it your way
What does "play it your way" even exactly mean
It means start your own Bizz
Take some time off, if you’re not visa dependent, spend less, go more outdoors, workout and just take your head off the grind for a bit.
Not Visa dependent , Thankfully!
Gotta take a tough step towards vulnerability and admit to yourself that you may need to take an immediate step back for your health. Once you cross that bridge with yourself I recommend a serious conversation with your spouse. If they are truly supportive you all can figure out a plan for how to handle the upcoming time as a team. It may not be easy but when two people are on the same page with an approach it can make the tasks much more bearable. I'm hoping all works out for you as I've been in that loop before and it can feel extremely hopeless. However it is not hopeless. You'll get through it by giving yourself grace and honesty.
This right here ☝🏻
I can feel the pain. I am going into the same situation. My company closed our project and verbally we have been let go and our end date is in Jan next year. They are saying that they will absorb us internally in different teams but process wise nothing happening. Not sure whether to look out or believe them
No point in waiting and wasting time, just look out and once/if you get offers, post in blind and decide
Which tech stack are you into?
Is your spouse working?
Yes.
Research Short term disability for stress. I wld use that time as severance.
My therapist recommended me to take break for a very long time and I just ignored focusing on work - until I got laid off in Metas management layoffs. The forced break has been surprisingly blissful, peaceful and refreshing and I should have taken it a year back. All the stress and tiredness has gone and all my health metrics have improved. Please prioritize your health.
How long was the break to allow you this recovery? I took 3 months last year but as soon as I was back to employment I degraded back to misery very quickly..
I’m still in break, full paid 6 months will be done soon.
Indian?
Yep!
take fmla and get out of the toxic environment first and foremost. try to exercise since it helps a lot with stress (applies to your wife as well) and slowly prepare for interviews. you have to get out of the hole so do what is needed. stop feeling sorry for yourself and expecting emotional support etc. from others. the world owes you nothing. you have to fight it out. no one else. this is not the time to give up. work on your cv and try to make it attractive so that you get calls at least. learn from your interviews and improvise. try to understand what recruiters want in a candidate. try to get a job first even if low paying to save status and then think about getting better job. one mistake i used to do was to overthink about it and get extra worried and it achieved nothing. take it 1 day at a time. try to get dinner from time to time so that there is an atmosphere of celebration and not all doom and gloom. now is not the time to give up. trust me i have gotten through this twice with a baby in my arms. one day after you have made it, you will think about it and laugh it off.
Thank you for kind words! i started working with therapist! Honestly, i do not know why even I am hanging in there but not taking FMLA yet! I am frustrated with myself for not calling it quits already!
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