Indian men marrying non Indian women
Hi am an Indian divorcee (arranged marriage) working for Amazon joining Google soon (awaiting H1B transfer). Am currently living-in with a Russian immigrant (US Citizen) working in non-IT. We met about 2 months earlier. We both love each other and feel happy together. I am feeling little nervous about marriage. She loves me and wants to marry me. Am worried the cultural differences will matter later in the relationship. I have told her the same that we continue this relationship for longer and together figure out our annoyances and decide about marriage later. I wanted to ask if such marriages result later in issues, annoyances or any unforeseen problems. People with such experiences pls comment out ur thoughts so I can make a educated decision about marriage. She is my age 35 and is not that smart but very loving and caring. We do not have much in common but the differences are currently keeping us interested together. She is thrilled by Indian movies, recipes etc.. TC: @Amazon225K @google300K
Here are red flags in your post : 1. Met just 2 months ago 2. Divorcée from arrange marriage- why are you rushing again? Get to know her 3. You do not have much in common 4. Differences are keeping you interested- thats just called as curiosity
This guy fucks!
Exactly! 2 months from meet to live-in is very fast.Also having been there myself the differences are cute in the beginning but later on similar core values matter in marriage. Just some days ago a guy posted here how the differences that attracted him are now biggest PITA. My advice- having been there myself- live together for atleast over a year and look at your behaviors during bad times - especially during bad times. If after that u feel differences are not that great and u feel happy relatively most of the time then go ahead. Good luck
"and is not that smart" ==> this for me would be enough not to proceed. Just because it's an essential part of any conversation that people feel they're on the same level. Is she just generally not smart or only in your area of expertise?
Good one :)
I think OP is just not good with words. he probably means not as smart as him, which is not a big deal.
Do you want to have kids? Is she Russian Orthdox or Jewish, or something else? Religion can (but likely will not) play a role as long as you don’t want to do anything religious either. I have a friend in the exact same situation, an Indian man married to a Russian girl (she is Jewish). Russians and Indians have a lot more in common than people think. PM if you want more details?
I was going to point out the cultural similarities. They're pretty close compared to most cultures, especially in the area of marriage and social roles. The conversation / intelligence gap another poster mentioned made me laugh a bit - not generally an issue for either culture involved. That's almost exclusively a US thing we managed to spread to Europe.
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I am sure she will be able to know this is you , and when she sees “not that smart” she will dump you. Just wait for it..and your prob will be solved
And whats her TC?
Lmao
Marry her with a prenup and get green card, later you can decide what you want to do.
You just shot morality in the head
What you lack is positivity, what ever happens to the relationship, if op does what I say there will be something positive at the end of it, if it has to end. Morality was killed by Congress when they don't want to solve problem of legal immigrants and are fine with people waiting for green card for 100 years or more.
Indian married to a white girl we are in love forever marry her
I was very close to a non-Indian guy. He loved Indian food, culture, attire everything. He would love to come grocery shopping with me to the Indian grocery store. I would cook for him, and we would go garba (a traditional Indian dance) together. Things were great until I started realizing we differed in our core values because of being brought up in different cultures. Like he thought living with parents at 25 is kiddish, I wouldn't. He saw it ok for someone to be divorced 3 times and be his/her 4th, I wouldn't. He wanted to keep our money separate, I wanted to combine the resources. He thought we should never ever discuss our past, I thought if you are genuinely with someone you can be open about it. He thought even in a relationship, it was ok to have our personal lives and not share everything with each other, I wasn't. We decided to stay friends, still are.
Indian male here and you are describing me here :)
Haha that's not the point. The point is OP may (or may not) differ in his core values with his gf. He should give the relationship more time to build, and understand each other better before he thinks about taking the next step. I hope it works out beautifully for him.
2 months is too early to get into another marriage... I'm also divorced from an arranged marriage, 6 months into my first relationship after marriage I realized that was just a rebound ... No reason to rush, fact that the girl wants to get married after 2 months is scary
There are no guarantees that you won’t get issues with Indian woman. Go for it and also helps your immigration. Better get marry but before that take her to India, meet your family, stay for few days. You also do the same with her family. Then decide. Take your time, no rush.