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I met a girl on a dating app. I went on a date few days ago and it went well. We get along well, and had nice conversation. However I realised, we didn’t kissed or hugged each other. Is there something I didn’t do right or I didn’t showed enough balls to take the conversation a bit intimate and then I should have hugged her. I asked her for a second date and she agreed. Any suggestions what I am doing wrong here. I know there will be lot of people who will troll me here, but that’s ok. I am really looking for some genuine suggestions on how I can improve my dating skills. I would also like to take some girls perspective on this. I know, I need to up my dating skills. As of now it sucks just like my TC. P.S. I am Male. T.C. 110k SWE
I would never expect a second date if you didn’t kiss on the first date, and more than a peck, something with chemistry. Otherwise you’re just going to get women looking to you as provider, imho. Genuine suggestion: read models by mark manson
Thanks for your suggestion. I think I should read that book. I asked for the second date and she agreed. I don’t know what it means
It means you’re getting a second chance :) I’m not saying a second date never happens, just shouldn’t be expected compared to a date with good sexual chemistry
If she agreed to a second date then it shouldn’t matter. Sometimes people don’t like physical contact unless they get to know someone better. Some people have issues with physical contact in general.
So should I try to make my conversation intimate during my second date. Actually I am very bad at it. I can make people laugh, but I feel nervous when talking to girls on a date about intimate stuff and eventually I am not able to speak up anything sexual
No. You’ll creep her out by making the conversation “intimate”. Only do so if you get those vibes from her, and if she didn’t even initiate a hug last time, I’d say just don’t. Get to know her, keep making her laugh. Just be chill
Patience is a virtue which is undervalued. Of course a lot depends on the person you are going out with. The first date is about making a connection and showing respect and establishing a comfort zone. Any girl you go out with will trust you more and starts thinking that you aren't there just for flesh. I never make a single move on first date unless the girl herself wants it badly and there is a mutual chemistry and if it is just supposed to be benefits thing. You can never go wrong by not kissing or touching on your first date. Make her laugh and show her a good time. She will come back with a strong desire. Making a hasty move is immature play by younger guys.
No, she hates you
Just out of curiosity. Are you a girl. I’m asking this because , is that how a girl will think if I didn’t became intimate with her on first date.
Nope he is not😉 Just carry on talking to her as usual, maybe she needs to trust you more
I don’t like touching anyone on first date. I will hug you on second. I’m not kissing anyone until at least 4th date. Kissing actually grosses me out because at lot of people are bad kissers so I better like you a lot for you to get that close of me. It depends on the girl and how comfortable she is with physical affection with strangers or if she’s physically affectionate at all. I’m really physically affectionate but I need to really like and trust you. No physical affection doesn’t mean she doesn’t like you. Could still be making up her mind...
Don’t overthink it. If the second date goes well, ask if you may kiss her goodnight when you drop her home. Don’t be aggressive or demanding about it - but it’s okay to make it clear you’re interested in intimacy.
I didn’t hug or kiss my ex on our first date despite our great chemistry, but I knew I was gonna have to see him again for sure! And that relationship lasted almost three years! Very fulfilling for the first two. Didn’t work out for some life reasons... but yea just saying. Don’t be so anxious about hugs or kisses unless you are just trying to get laid. What if the girl just actually wanna talk to a real person and see if he’s actually into something serious as well?
If you're only trying to get laid then you may have found someone looking for a relationship. Or they also felt awkward and didn't want physical contact on the first date. It's perfectly normal...
Don’t worry about it. She wants a second date, that means she still sees potential and is interested. Be your authentic self. Don’t force conversations or topics. Let things flow. My husband didn’t kiss me until our 4th date. I really appreciated that because almost every guy I had met before was way too aggressive and seemed like they were only interested in physical intimacy.
^^this
Dude, with that tc you are gonna get crushed here
lol .. I know that 😂😂😂😂