Is life too long to spend alone?
Indian, 28, female, virgin, single (please don't ping me, as I won't reply to blind messages) I am facing pressure from my family to get married, but I don't want to. I am used to being single and doing everything by myself. The thought of having someone in my life permanently, making babies, etc is making me anxious. My mom is super tense that I won't find a guy and she feels like I have got stuck in my life, she almost cried today because I refused to listen to her request of getting married. According to her, I am already past the 'marrigeable age'. I broke up with my bf 6 years ago (it was puppy love in college, more like holding hands and kissing). Since we broke up, I never dated again, never felt like it. It was hurting and I don't want to go through that feeling ever again in my life. Had a few crushes later but they were mainly interested in keeping it casual/FWB, so I refused. Is life too long to spend by oneself? Anyone who didn't get married at the 'right age' and regretted it? Should I just dive right in and get married even though I may not be attracted to him? It hurts to see my parents upset. PS - Please refrain from passing comments on my mom/family/culture.
Is sex just not something your interested in? Are dicks scary? Or are there negative feelings when you think of men? But to answer your question, I donât think you can really know unless you start dating.
I never felt attracted to d1cks/b00bs/vag1na. I get attracted to the person. If I like him, I feel a sense of closeness and then I like every aspect of him, including his dick. If I don't feel a connection with someone, i don't get attracted no matter how hot his body is. I can admire his body but not get attracted to it. Me and my ex bf made out, I liked it, but we decided to wait for sex. After the breakup I never tried to date. Yes, I think men don't put as much effort into a relationship as women do. For them, it's shallow. I think women form a deeper connection.
âYes, I think men don't put as much effort into a relationship as women do. For them, it's shallow. I think women form a deeper connection.â From a male perspective, I agree 100%
No. It really depends on the individual. But if you have to ask the question, then your answer is âyesâ
You always have leetcode option. Stay single and enjoy life to the fullest ;)
Don't get married because you feel forced to by parents or society, that's just absurd lmao. Plus, if you do that, not only is there a good chance your husband will be miserable, but your parents will not be done: they will start nagging you on when you will make grandkids for them.
You will regret if you get married to a man without love and knowing much. You will regret, I think, if you don't ever get married and not have kids. So 'right' solution seems to be to wait until you meet right person and also be open minded to long term relationship.
Sounds like you havenât stumbled upon the right person yet :)
OP, itâs your life to live as you choose. That can be with love, companionship or on your own. All of those may be meaningful and happy lives, but it depends on the personality of the individual and how you âimplementâ your choice. Please keep in mind that itâs easier to meet someone when younger than older. I met my wife when I was 18 and married after college; I have not regretted the decision for a day. My brother, one year younger, has been much pickier and has very lonely. We have spent the past 15 years living with these choices. I wish you well, OP, and peace with whatever decision you make. Feel free to PM if you want to talk.
Don't get married for somebody else. In my opinion though, being alone your whole life seems... lonely. Don't understand why no desire to have sex though. Being a virgin at 28 is crazy, in my opinion, regardless of culture or background. You are missing out on one of the great joys of life there.
You can also choose to marry and not make babies. The two are separate decisions :)
If today I succumb to the pressure of getting married, I will succumb to the pressure of making babies. Because it will come from both sides - my family and my in laws (also probably from my husband)
Yes