Married life is lonely without love and children
I am above average attractive M but living a life without love. My wife is busy in her way that she have no more interest in marital life. I want kids as I am aging out to take care in raising. If my wife live separately in another home, does that grant me legal permission to date someone and raise kids. Please advise. Having children is my highest priority. I am open to date anyone willing to date and birth children with separated man. If that is not legally possible, open to work on divorce as our married life is hanging on thread any way. Please share your advice for possible path from here. #marriage #dating #relationships
Don't you have hobbies?
Divorce immediately Tc?
Divorce. No one wants to have kids with a separated man At least no one with good judgement. Read the dating over 30 and 40 subreddits and you’ll see most people (men and women) are wary of dating people who aren’t legally divorced because it backfires most of the time (either person isn’t ready to date or they go back to their spouse or there’s drama/tension that eventually destroys the relationship due to the lack of certainty)
I would never have kids with a man until he marries me!! It’s a huge risk. So you need to divorce to marry again
Poor aloneMan! Just divorce and re-marry. Don't waste your time. Kids want a secure and safe home, not useless relationships.
This is a weird post. There’s not illegal, at least in most western and progressive countries (though probably less progressive countries as well but for men only) in stepping out on your wife and dating women with or without her knowledge or permission. There’s only the question of whether it is moral or not, and there’s always a debate as to whether morality can be objectively defined in the first place. You don’t say if your wife wants children or why you live in separate houses. If those things can be overcome, would you want to have kids with your wife? You sort of blame her for a lack of love in the marriage, but maybe you also don’t love her and want someone else (which is fine - but don’t blame her exclusively to avoid feeling some guilt. It’s ok). If you find you don’t really want to make things work with your wife, then divorce. I’m sure you have to use step by step thinking and problem solving at work. Apply it here. Your post is disjointed as if you’re totally overwhelmed but every problem has some rational decision making aspect that can be applied. 1. Define the problem. Is it that you and your wife want different things or is there potential to work things out? 2a. You want different things: divorce 2b. Potential to work things out: figure out what’s keeping you two from a happy relationship and what needs to change. Decide how long you’re willing to put work in and how much change you need to see. This is very important. To nebulously “work on things” and “wait and see” indefinitely is how things get dragged out / nothing moves in any direction. 3. One way or another you’ll be moving in the direction towards having a family
I think divorces can be fast or slow depending on a lot of factors. Talk to a lawyer to get a sense of timeline.
lol were they a lawyer?
What is stopping you from moving on and making a clean break?
At what age did you guys marry? Did you not discuss this before marriage? My honest suggestion talk to her and look into adoption,genes are not that special, human DNA is same. If she is not up for adoption divorce her.
how on god's green earth did you get married! This shit is confounding!
Ok so what is your opinion now
Just dump the old hag, find a new fertile young 20 year old and have children. Men can always get younger girls.
Yeah, why would a twenty year old girl date / marry a 45 yo man. This is very rare.
Depends on 2 questions 1. How old are you? 2. When did you get married?
Mid 40 and it has been long time now. No more current
If you just want children, then why do you need to divorce? Just give birth to kids and raise them together.
Then just divorce, what's the dilemma here ?
Also didn't you discuss this before marriage?