I am 25 turning 26 very soon. I’ve realized I’ve lost touch with a majority of my friends from high school and college. I’ve also never had a girlfriend and have had a very dry dating life. I have 0 hope in finding a solid friend group now and going to interesting concerts, events with them. I’m never on anyone’s instagram story because I’m not worth it I don’t think my team mates like me either and that’s why my manager gives me lower impact projects. I just feel like I’m not cut out to be successful or socially popular and it sucks. Maybe 26 years was my destined time on earth 😞
Hey honestly you sound really down and consider this a virtual hug from an absolute stranger. That said, you need to adjust your perspective. First off, consider what you have going for you. You must be smart, at least to a certain extent to be at google. I hope this also means that you have financial stability to a certain extent. You are young, like really young! 20’s are for getting to know yourself and getting to know how the world works. So treat these experiences as just that nothing more. Something that I’ve learned in my life is that no one will seek you out. No one has the time to pull you under their radar unless something you have to offer is directly useful for the other person. You need to work on yourself first and foremost, learn how to be happy and fulfilled. Focus on solo things — read, explore, be curious and talk to people with empathy. Pick up hobbies. Post on Instagram if social is what you are going for. Eventually others will start to notice and connect on things that are mutually aligned. This is the beginning of good and quality relationships. Take advantage of workplace activity groups! Join and meet people regardless of what age they are. You’ll eventually find your clique. You’ll start feeling happy in the community you cultivate. But it all starts with you and your effort in getting there. It’ll probably suck for a year or two or more but eventually it’ll happen. So be patient and remember that these are your formative years! If doing this just feels too hard, seek therapy to dig deeper on what’s going on. You’ll need to try harder before saying this is the end tho. As you grow older, there’s so much more shit you’ll have to learn to deal with and these problems won’t mean much in another few years. So, take care of yourself and equip yourself with the toolkit you need to deal life with.
Are you in Seattle? Then yes it’s hard to find friends here in general. Post uni, its all up to you to participate in routines/events to make friends compared to hs/uni. You got to be more intentional and planning
Try fire spinning, that's a community of welcoming people who are very welcoming as long as you actually take the plunge and spin fire. It's a good way to find out about cool underground events. It's been a helpful way to cope with moving cities when nessarcy.
You have come to the right place.
Don’t rely on external validation from others to find your own peace and happiness. External validation is dangerous because you cannot control it. Internal validation, however, is entirely in your own hands; given the same external events, there are many different internal interpretations. I’m 25 and also turning 26 soon. I have kept in touch with HS and some college friends. I have an amazing gf who I would like to marry and spend rest of life with. However I have been laid off recently and my TC is 0. Every day I watch my bank account drop as I pay off daily living expenses. The job market is brutal for mid level and I’m struggling to land any offers. Life is a balance between TC and social. Looks like we are on opposing extremes of the same spectrum both of which are not great. Try to seek a balance.
TC & Level?
Asking the right questions 😂
You work at Google silly goose! What you are going through is called growing up (outside of college student life bubbles) and possibly depression. Please check out this episode of understanding and conquering depression on Huberman Lab. Even if you don’t think you have depression, there are lots of helpful tools to help boost mood. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/huberman-lab/id1545953110?i=1000532784169
it'll get better, that's all i can say
Yeah, I was in your shoes when I was in my mid-twenties which was surprisingly a challenging time for me. I feel as you grow older, you'll realize that everyone's on their unique path, and comparing our journeys can often do more harm than good. That said, I wonder if a change of scenery might do you some good? Not saying it's a silver bullet, but sometimes a fresh start can offer a renewed perspective which is what I did in my mid-20s. Austin, TX has an inviting and warm community vibe. It's a lively city with a burgeoning tech scene and a rich cultural life – think concerts, outdoor activities, and interesting events. It could be a place where you could recalibrate both your professional and social life. I've had friends who found that by simply relocating, they were able to break old patterns and create new, fulfilling relationships. Plus, Austin's music and arts scene might provide you with those concerts and events you've been longing to attend.
Monday 🔵
Nah, my weekends are horrible now because I have nothing to do. Had major fomo looking at Outside Lands stories. Wish I had those kind of cool friend circles
Find some hobby.. join some clubs/ groups with like minded people. Spend some time away from SM that shit is toxic. You are just 26 and have a decent cushioned life.. lot of good stuff ahead 🤘chill and try to enjoy what you have