My trust in indian marriages and culture in general seem to be shattering
It feels like the more I know about details of any indian relation the more i am repelled to indian culture and its hypocrisy. --> Almost all posts about troubled marriages on blind are indian marriages and how badly they want to get divorced but because of family pressure they cannot. This leads them to having no sexual relation or living together but in separate bedrooms etc. Like if a couple is not happy why not just give them a chance to find happiness somewhere else? --> or couples in love but their families wont let them get married because of caste system or other differences, like why cant this be just a couple's decision and parents be happy for their kids to have found love --> Why do in laws have to meddle so much between the couple and why cant Indian men grow up instead of being mama's boy all their life and if they want to be mama's boy then why get married in first place? --> I have heard stories about parents of some of my best friends and how their parents dont even talk to each other but are unhappily still together and how this has formed their childhood differently. --> So many stories where the women from our parents generation, how they have pretty much struggled all their life maintaining and fulfilling the expectation of in-laws family but still was not appreciated until almost she was old and dint have her inlaws any more --> Just saw post about 7 out of 10 indian women cheating on their husbands in Bangalore and Mumbai, and honestly I dont blame them. All this negativity and pressure would definitely ruin the intimacy of any couple
Indian population: 1.4B. I am not disagreeing with what you said but your sample set isn’t random enough to come to that conclusion for the entire country/culture. I can give you so many examples which will contradict what you said. In short, nothing is perfect; different cultures have different issues. Also, are you an indian?
I guess it is. My sample set include pretty diverse group I guess from different income groups as well as pretty rich business families to families from different parts of world and some of them even second generation Americans/Canadians/Australians. Also including diverse education background --> Some families who grew up in US/Canada/Australia and are second generation which includes South Indian as well as North Indian --> Some families who are neighbors or family friends in a small town but not too small (8th biggest town in state to be exact) --> Some families who are pretty rich and very well travelled and live in a city with lot of history and culture I dont mean to spread negativity but this is just too much and why cant we get past this hypocrisy of culture and family and actually be a family that spreads love, no judgement and be together without expectations
Are you an Indian?
Ok.. what are you expecting from this post? Some kinda solace?
I guess just venting out or just want to bring this to attention. So many troubled relationship posts on blind just got me thinking
Just a quantum
Ok cool so what? This is Blind TC or GTFO
I mean to be fair they did make a relationships section... which he put this post in
Imagine being an adult human, having a six figure salary, and then acting like you’re being held at gun point by your family or your culture. JUST WALK AWAY AND CLOSE YOUR EYES. Stop making up excuses for why you can’t be happy. Stop blaming invisible forces in your life.
Lol for most of us Indians the six figure salary is because of the sacrifices made by our family.
I can respect that, but that doesn’t give them the right to rule over your life. Repay the debt in full via monetary means if you’re so concerned about the kindness you have received.
The way Indians react to cultural tyranny makes me think that they all love it.
Time to marry a non Indian OP. Go get that green card babe / dude.
I bet OP is female.
Oh yea definitely. But I represent MS and we are being taught to be woke. So I thought I should not assume gender
Indian culture abandoned the best of eastern values and embraced the worst of the western values. Indian culture, today is in an existential crisis.
That survey is according to Gleeden.com! Even if 10 million Indians take that survey which is highly unlikely, it’s still less than 1% of the Indian population living in India. And then comes all Indians living all over the world. Just for your perspective, there are about 50 million Indians in the US alone and Gleeden is not available in the US; I’m not saying Indians don’t cheat there. But this survey is just overrated. So, all is well and you can still chase Indian women and curry 😂
Ok, let's not exaggerate here. According to https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Indian_Americans there are 4.4 million Indians in the U.S. Nowhere close to your 50 million
Lol 😂 close to 5 million 🙏
Eventually, it's the kids that sort of force you to stay together, and not any culture.
This post is 🔥. That hits me right in the stomach. I feel you bro/sis, been there, going through it.
OP is female for sure.