I joined FAANG with huge salary boost for 300k TC from less than 80k a year ago. When I joined I shared my salary with my GF, my mom, and my brother. Now somehow everyone around me knows how much I make, some even say I earn more. This was the worst mistake I’ve ever made in my life. I generally hate spending money and I am pretty frugal, but things escalated quickly. My GF is pressing me for expensive gifts, like $2k+ Gucci bags and expensive vacations. My friends many times expect me to cover the drinks at the bar. On top of this everyone hates me because I complain a lot when something is expensive and I hate wasting money, they say I’m the greediest person they know. How can I recover from this? Quit the job and get a new offer without sharing the new salary this time? I see this as the only option TC: $300k
Get new friends and partners. That's your money, not hers. Also, distance and tell them you took a pay cut due to shares. Don't ever share your financials. Period.
First, get away from your GF and find someone whose mindset matches you. Friends are fine - you can just tell to their faces that they should convert their checks. They already think that you are greedy. How much worse can it get.
I understand this from family, but friends? Drop them. They all sound like losers
Honestly bro, it sounds like u need new friends (and maybe a new gf) It sounds like your friends and gf genuinely feels entitled or are jealous of you, I get jealous of my friends who make more too but their not being a good friend if they do this to you instead of being happy for you
It’s not how much you make, it’s how much you keep. Come clean. Tell them how you feel. Have boundaries for yourself, and let them know you will pay for your share of the bill, not theirs. Regarding your gf, it’s not very good form to ask for gifts. But understand that different people value different things. If she enjoys a life of luxury and social status, while you are at your best when living a life of frugality, it’s either you see the light and relax a bit, without judgement and indulge her desires, or decide that you are not compatible.
Your girlfriend is a gold digger, drop her. Find someone who enjoys saving money or buys things they want with their own money
Remind me of another thread that complaining swe making 450k don’t want to pay for the shared ride.
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