I am a new grad that just started at google a few months ago. Ever since I came I've been feeling really depressed here in the bay and I feel like I have no friends. I'm kind of an introverted guy and its really hard for me to make friends tbh. Everyday i wake up and really dont want to go to work and every night I just lay in bed feeling really isolated. To make matters worse, my ex and I broke up when I moved here because we decided we didnt want to do long distance and she will most likely never come to the Bay area. Since ive been so lonely its hard for me to get over her :(. Sometimes she messages me asking how I'm doing and I just pretend everything is fine, but in reality I just want to break down. I know Blind isnt the best place to talk about this stuff but I would really love to chat with someone about life, and since a lot of people here are in similar positions, I decided to ask on here.
Talk to a therapist, OP. It really helps. Get a pet, maybe?
Meetups are a good place for meeting new people. Check out their website and see if anything seems interesting
+1 for this. Particularly for introverts, a group activity setting of something you're interested in will help you really connect with/open up to others.
Oh yeah pets are awesome dog or cat
Try joining casual meetup groups specific to your interests . Could be hiking or happy hour ones. Easier to break ice with new people.
Get into cars. It'll take up all your time and money. Or fountain pens or watches or any other expensive hobby people occupy themselves with.
+1. Retail therapy is better than a useless therapist. Buy a Rolex, Mont Blanc, and STI /GTI / Si / RS.
I always tell people to just have someone to vent on. Talk to family, make some new friends, no matter how weird or unsocial you think you are, there are others who feel the same. Also, what is making you depressed? Work? Social anxiety? Consult a professional to finds way to treat it! If you have questions or just want to talk pm me.
It's just the feeling that im not really working towards anything. Like here I am, working away at a career that I will just be doing for the next 30+ years... now what? It just feels endless. Everyday passes by and it feels like the same thing, like I'm stuck in a bubble. I just dont have anyone or anything that I can look forward to anymore :(.
I believe everyone experiences this feeling sometime in their life, but it’s good to find something you enjoy. What did you dream of doing when you were younger? Want to be? I just remind myself of those.
Clearly personal front destroying work. If you want to break down, so be it. Break down before her, it’s ok. You never know what’s going on other-side. Just tell the truth. If you are uncertain, say that too. She could be your ticket to normal life. Hopefully she will be kind enough to listen all your troubles. If not, that’s when you should learn, men friend is as important as lover.
She isnt in the bay. She still lives in our hometown and wants to stay there and work as a teacher in the future. I don't think she can fix my problems and I dont want to rely on her for that.
At this point you need listeners to listen through your prospective and be supportive. Maybe social media can help. Post your thoughts over web and chat with people.
Try an app like Headspace if you’re not ready to go all in on therapy.
What is it in a nutshell ?
Mindfulness meditation
Hey OP, atleast she broke it off from the start and didn’t string you along. Me and my ex were doing long distance with the intention that I’ll be shifting to her within a year after getting some experience, but ultimately she cheated on me and then started ignoring me and then broke it off last week after a year of false promises. Bay is a great place to make friends and I am sure there are plenty of activity within Google as well.
Sorry to hear that :(. Yeah, I will probably try to go to some googler activities soon. I'm in kind of a smaller location so it's a bit harder, but I will make the effort haha.
At least you know now that she isn’t the one if she didn’t want to stick by your side no matter what. It’s a blessing in disguise find the one or let the one find you who will support your career moves and be ready at the same time you are to settle down. Who’s to say it’s totally over between you two anyways. This feeling is temporary. Go out and make friends compliment people be nice to coworkers and see if that helps make you friends
it was a mutual decision since she could never see her self living in the bay in the future, and I could never see myself living in our hometown forever. im not sure if we will ever get back together, but either way I don't want to base my happiness and wellbeing on the thought that it might happen.
Best of luck to you