For those of you guys who are married. Why did you do that? In my early 30s in a stable relationship with a girl I love. Here the two main thoughts that bother me about marriage: 1) I don’t feel comfortable with the length of the “contract”. People can change, we might love each other now but who knows in x years? What if we end up hating each other? 2) I am in a monogamous relationship atm however I believe that people go through phases and this might not be fine anymore for either me or her sometime in the future. Given the above why getting married when u can just keep being bf and gf? Do you do it for the kids? Do you do it for financial benefits? This is serious question so serious comments are appreciated.
So your girlfriend wants you to propose, huh? Otherwise you wouldn't ask here ;-) Why not ask why she wants it?
Dowry. Primarily a herd of goats.
Divorce is going to wipe out all these tax savings and cost you even more.
Indeed. Divorce much more expensive than the tax savings
There's only so much time you can spend looking for someone who checks all the points off your constantly evolving list. After a certain point you'll have much bigger problems to deal with and you might need someone to understand you and be there for you in sickness or health and you will need to be there for them too. Feels good to have that kind of security.
This! Plus it gives a sense of purpose to have a family and legacy. It makes you whole. Changes will happen - marriage is a commitment and living through and handling is a challenge that makes you a better person. Of course, it takes two with same principles/values/purpose to make that work. You need to make sure your partner has same reasons. It also takes certain level of maturity (which improves over time) to stay married. Having said that, if my wife was working or we didn't have kids, chances of us having separated aleady is very high!! Don't do it for financial reasons!
Because if you truly love her, you sacrifice something to make her happy. And if that’s committing to a lifetime of never being able to touch another wom.... RUN FOR YOUR LIFE! It’s too late for me but not for you!
If you think you are George Clooney, you should stay unmarried and date chicks half/third your age till you die Else, please do the needful 😀
George is married lol
Not anymore Edit: seems they are, despite talks of divorce
I’m 33 single guy, have dated plenty of girls and I see marriage as a beautiful thing. The decision of marriage to me is a sign that I know myself well enough to be able to make a life commitment. Towards my bride it’s a way of saying that I know you fundamentally enough to never bail on you. If you have the though of “never touch another woman again” then you rushed into marriage too early. I am done with my fantasies, fucked enough women, now I’m ready to meet the one. If the sex ever gets “bad” then communication is key. * Don’t care about the religious aspects of marriage at all.
Beautifully said
“the one” You are def not ready to get married.
Got maried so I could have sex, duh.
If you don't get married to will lose the girl
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OP: please read this: https://medium.com/personal-growth/does-marriage-even-make-sense-anymore-70e10f4d8c18. All your answers are here
Lmao clearly you're interacting with the wrong girls. Try women next time