Thoroughly enjoy my job in streaming here. Great manager and colleagues, clear career path and opportunity (teed up for a promo), great work life balance, entire team is remote. Job is especially ideal if we decide to start a family. Our data team performs very well and not much immediate risk for first round if layoffs, if any. Got an offer for a similar role I'm in now with a 25% base salary increase/60% increase TC. Feeling resistant because online comments and reviews of tech company work life balance, culture, and rumours of cutthroat colleagues resulting in an unpleasant work environment. It is a hybrid model which doesn't bother me. Currently I live with my life partner in a HCOL city so obviously more money would be good but with our total household income, we do not struggle. How much do you value happiness at your job? Could you put a # to it? Am I being unreasonable to not put money first right now while we try to save to start a family? TC: $123 YOE: 4 #marriage
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I do value happiness a lot more than 💰 . But everyone is different and you and your partner need to be on the same page. You said you don't struggle as a family. Is your partner taking major responsibilities for over all HHTC? Is your partners wlb not good ? In that case it's only natural for them to feel you should step up a little bit and they can let go off the gas a little bit. Are you and your partner on the same page about starting a family? In that case, do they feel you have enough saved up to start a family, and is the household TC sufficient even after you add a baby to the equation ? What does your partner think about this ?
I appreciate what you said that maybe my partner feels the need to let go of the gas a bit. They might not know that's what they're trying to say to me which I can understand. Partner thinks more money is always better and makes life easier, which is very true. We both know more money doesn't buy happiness and can't solve all your problems but I think I am the one more inclined to act by that than just believe the sentiment... We do not spend beyond our means (i.e. we cook a lot at home and we do not shop much for clothes or home decor, etc). Partner does provide the majority of the overall HHTC with average wlb. If we had a baby, we would have sufficient funds, but of course more funds never hurt. I do the majority of the household maintenance and management, given my flexibility. We previously agreed I'd be the spouse that could WFH with the nanny and baby. But if I took this new job, I'd have less flexibility and we most likely will just spend more to outsource cooking or home maintenance and management things. I just feel a bit put off there is so much pressure for me to give up a job I love that can still provide the life we want with a family. But I can't tell if I'm being too naive...
Well, then you can talk with your partner about how you expect them to step up with household chores and baby duties if you take up the new job. I know you feel that you are being deprived of what your partner promised you (being in care taker role) but things change which changes people. And a good couple if able to come to agreement. You can try explaining how you will be more inclined to take demanding jobs once the baby is of 3-4 years and starts attending school or something. I am pretty sure your partner is feeling pressure to perform well on their new job or has fear of being laid off.