Can you manage with parents, in-laws & wife?

Hey guys, I have been married for 14 years and have two wonderful kids and a loving wife. The only issue which keeps on disturbing our life is my parents and sibling, it's just that I am not sure what to do in this case? There is a gap growing day by day between my wife and my mother and reason is that my wife talk straight forward whereas my mother is little bit on buttering side and my father doesn't speak at all with my wife (badmouthed by my elder brother who is adopted by my father's sister). Now I am in soup every time I think of a vacation back home my wife backs off and she just prefer to stay either with her parents or with her brother's family. From inside i am seeing that my family is doing wrong by not talking enough with my wife but my wife also not thinking about my feelings too and everytime during our heated discussions she shouted at me and telling me that i can't hear or speak anything against my parents. Tell me why do we marry, its just that I love my wife and she took me out from a financial as well as personal relations mess and according to her I was a puppet in my family and I need to have my own stand but I somehow feel that I was happier back than :-(. I am just not sure what's correct anymore? Somewhere i feel I am depressed too as I am in an alien land and have no one else to talk to. I mean since childhood lived in a family wherein we always use to play outside and coming back to home only for food, necessities and growing up in 90s parents we super relaxing and i have no regrets at all, it's just that I am not able to handle the good relation curve between my wife and my mother. Even my brother played like a big O and he didn't even try to calm down my family knowing that my family somehow didn't like my wife from day1, tell me is it that person who has a beautiful heart and normal face (according to people who see only face value) will not be liked by anyone?? My brother even took lots of money from my parents, imagine since when I am growing up me and my sister were sent a community school and he (first child) was sent to a private school and again in college we were selected with scholarships but not allowed to choose a nice fancy one and he was not at all into studies despite that he was allowed to choose a good college and i guess my parents paid the fees there too. Think about it his business almost died in pandemic times and I helped him through unknown routes and also through my parents, they also ran out of cash, unbelievable still for me. So now my brother just kept on sending me text over whatsapp oh you guys take care, oh you guys be safe, but point is that he never brings in the picture directly to my wife (to add my wife is cousin sister of his wife). It's all so weird now, I am not sure where to start and what's the end of all of this, i can't pull in much my sister as she is the only lady left in her house this pandemic took a toll in her home and all they got now is her and 4 kids back at home, she is also a migraine patient but she is helping my parents as they stay near to her home. Somewhere I feel every person has to live life with multiple faces, one that he shows in office, one at home to wife and one to his parents and last one which he himself doesn't know. To add little bit for myself: I am a very introvert person and highly unsocial, don't know what to reply when anyone pop a question, kinda abused in childhood (touching inappropriately) didn't tell to anyone no courage, family thinks that I am still a kid at 40 years of age. I just can't think or do wrong man to anyone or may be I am not courageous and i am just not sure how do I change it? To overcome that feeling I kept on donating for social cause on gofundme, unicef for random families, also since last 5 months remotely teaching the disabled kids to code, gave money for ivf to my friend, distributing masks and many more God knows it. I don't have any other place to vet it out, kindly excuse me for any typo and if it sounds foolish to you. #relationships #marriage