I (M) recently mustered up the courage to express my feelings to a crush by writing them down on a website and sharing the link with her via sticky notes. She does her part-time at the school where I see her often. It was a bit nerve-wracking, but I felt like it was the best way for me to convey my emotions. She recognises me, but as she is at her work, it's really tough to make moves when someone else also sits at the reception desk. So, I expressed my feelings by a quote (that's what I felt when I saw her at my part-time; she visited the dining services once) and wrote my number using a probability expression, something like p(x) = 1/123 * 1/345 ..., on the website. On Feb 14, she was doing her part-time, and there is someone else beside her. So, I really cannot go and ask her out without freaking out or embarrassing myself when some other girl sits beside her. So, I made use of sticky notes (a few are her favourite colours, just by her dressing style), handed them over to her, and left that floor. Previously, I made one attempt to ask her out (just to confirm whether I am reading someone's signals properly or not). But I did not have the courage that day and ended up saying, 'I forgot the script; will ask some other day.' It's pretty obvious for her by this time. So, note1 (purple, taking consent): I don't want to interrupt the person beside, so I took this approach. I have some feelings to express, I mean love data. If you're comfortable with that, please turn to the next note. note2 (purple): Thank you~ note3 (green, her favorite): I have a huge crush on you (1/0). note4 (green): Please refer to the following link: <website>. I expressed my feelings there. note5 (pink): I hope you liked this approach. Apologies. I understand this is your workplace, and I respect that, so I picked this approach. note6 (pink): I want to do this today itself, given the special occasion. You are consuming full CPU resources of my brain. Haha! At last, she did take those notes with her. I mean, I do not see them at her desk if she had left them there. It's Feb 19. It's been 4 days. I understand I failed miserably. And I did mention on the site that 'I won't make you uncomfortable by visiting that floor again (where she does part-time).' Did she fail to decode my number from the probability equation? Maybe I failed to interpret her signals properly. The conclusion is that she is not interested. Is it too much engineering stuff? Innovative stuff? Do I need to wait longer? Should I visit that floor again and show her my face? Haha Is she expecting in words? #relationships #dating
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OP, glad to hear back from you, but just one question: why did you make deciphering your phone number so complicated? Anyway, at this point, I think it might help if you could get in touch with a friend of hers to understand her thoughts about you. Also, know that, realistically, if she is really as good looking as you make her out to be, there may be others interested in her as well, and it might be difficult for you.
things, I didnot mentioned. 1. besides being beautiful, she wears matching clothes. so, wanted to design and instead of buying a card. so used website approach. 2. its a open website. I need to hide the phonenumber somehow. I used that approach. It indirectly indicates the probability of she accepting(on a rough scale) my proposal too(kind of bit innovative if she can understand) 3. I tested against few residents of this state, they all undertood that as a phone number. Others failed to decode that. anyway, I am not worried about that at all. 4. I thought, she wont take those sticky notes while closing library . She did take them with her. this is what happened happened that day. " she does parttime whole day. 2. I went and asked some question about a meeting being held there to ease the later approach. 3. her tone is more accepting than questioning this time. May be, she understood why I left that floor without asking her out last time. 4. initial plan was to talk and hand over the link. 5. Unaccepted things happened. Her boss was sitting beside her that day replacing the absentee. 6. I donot know what to do. But I wanna complete this. So picked up some colourful stickynotes(that floor was organising an event on love data, and they put some sticky notes there) 7. finally approached her. She was alone. Plan failed!!! But there was someone few meters away. Its a very quite library. So, I said "I have a question -continuing my previous attempt. and handed over her the sticky notes. She did accept and started seeing all notes at once. me with lot of shyness: wait~~. Please look at them once I leave. She said 'with a big smile said -ok' amd I left the floor. " and too answer your questions 1. I donot know any of her firends. not even her name. I donot wanted to follow creepy approach. 2. I started and she led the remaining. I have to conclude. I approached this way. I am more interested to listen about my approach and next steps and she cannot be that dumb studying at this school.
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I got confused just by reading your post. She's probably lost in the middle of your puzzle. Next time just say "fk it" to yourself, come and ask for her number directly. If she gives you one, invite her for lunch or coffee. Don't put too much effort into texting, it's not your strongest skill, so make use one of your stronger sides.
I will update you on Wednesday(her next parttime slot)
Note7(red): not gonna happen
You didnot like my innovation approach?