36 years old, L5 SWE. My life is so boring, days are almost an exact repetition. Everyday is the same, work 9-5, dinner, watch a movie, sleep, etc. I go on vacation like 4 weeks a year: 3 weeks in my home country to see my family and then one more week of real vacation where I travel internationally and see parts of the world. This is probably the only week I feel happy and rewarded. My main problem is time and money. I am nothing but a slave giving up my golden years so that I can retire with some safe nest egg. Missed out big on the housing market and got left behind. I know that I am still doing better than 99.9% of people in the world but that’s not good enough. Why tf am I still on my desk in a job I hate (I hate spending precious time on something I don’t enjoy) when others spend lots of time traveling Europe, New Zealand, and are relaxing on a Hawaii beach resort? My dream life is to buy a 4000sqft new construction on a one acre, spend most of my time doing hobbies, paragliding, diving, going on cruises, going to the gym, vacations, making friends, attending fun events, fine-dining, etc. But in reality I have little time or appetite to do anything after work, don’t go to the gym, very fat, don’t swim, can’t run for more than a minute and very unsatisfied with my life that I had suicidal thoughts. My life isn’t going to change if I keep things this way. So what I am going to do is to take $50k-$100k out of my net worth and start gambling with high risk investments (crypto, options, …) and see how things turn out to be. Maybe I can get 100x or more in a year and retire or work very lazily. If I lose that money then fine, I don’t think that losing it will change my life, I lost ~$250k in the last stock market sell off and still nothing practicality changed for me. Any thoughts? I also want to mention that I don’t have inner peace with my life. I am constantly unhappy, have sleepless nights thinking and thinking about my my current situation and how to gtfo of it. I feel very stressed out and don’t see things changing 😩 TC: $550k, 7 yoe, single earner, 2 kids. NW: $1.5M
Consider moving to lcol area and deflating your expenditures. Your willi find you don't need much else other than time with family and friends to enjoy life. Stop chasing money, houses and pointless shit
Find a hobby, friends, or some other meaningful activity that you find rewarding, and if you hate your job either look to move internally or find a new one. I feel like you’re solution doesn’t line up with the problem you described. You aren’t going to look back at your life and think “damn, I’m glad I wasted 100k a year gambling on stocks”
u can just take a year off to travel then return to Goog w/o interview right
That’s 10x more expensive than gambling with $50k
no, how about taxes? but the bigger question is so what, since it addresses the issues you brought up with greater reliability. it won’t delay retirement plans by much
How are you making 550k as L5? Levels.fyi says Google L5 makes 380
Jeez fam fucking blind never changes
Stock appreciation. People don’t go back to levels.fyi every 2-4 years updating their comp post stock appreciation. At least not all of them.
Yeah you can't become rich from wageslaving.
Those are 2 extreme options. Why not consider many things in between. Take a lower paying job , do things you like
My main problem is money. I would retire at 100 with a low paying job lol
You can make that problem go away. Start by getting a 10-20 hours a week job and start cooking instead of eating out. Cut down on expensive traveling and increase your activity in the local community. Instead of daycare, spend time with your children and partner. Invite people over for dinner parties, go over to their places. Fill your life with people and not with things.
Take up remote work or join a company which permits remote work .. shift to mountain or some country side enjoy the nature and spend time with your loved ones ..i think burning money for fun will not give you peace ...Help underprivileged ones I am sure it will bring a smile on your face ...I think the important purpose of life is be happy which doesn't comes with money
If you can repro it you can fix it :)
Underrated comment :)
Personally I think there’s so many things you can do with an extra 100k than gamble it away. If I were in your position, maybe take a leave of absence and take my family on an extended vacation and see the world. Or do something else you would enjoy with it. And if nothing in life gives you joy right now, you gotta see a therapist or something. It’s not normal to be unhappy all the time and you have to talk to somebody about it. Invest the 100k in an index fund until you figure out what you really want to do, then you’ll be happy you still have it.
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How long until your younger kid is 18 and then you can travel and work from wherever you want?
My oldest is 3 years old. I would be ~50 by then.
Okay, so let’s not wait that long. What hobbies fill your bucket that you can do now?