Screwed up and need suggestions
Been in current relationship for a few months now. There's been few times when my gf mentioned that she doesn't feel I care about our relationship much and asked if I want to continue at all. We've had a few conversations about it, but we didn't really fight or anything. She seemed understanding when I explained that I value my free time and how I spend it on other things like friends or games. To be honest I didn't really act on that much. I love her, but that's just how I am used to be and always been. I never expressed my true feelings to her. Now she's started to act distant and I feel like I'm losing her. She used to send me messages, which I thought were really cute, but now they've become dry and rare. She used to call me every day, but now it's more like one or two messages per a few days with a very basic "how are you" kinda stuff. I know she's not seeing anyone, but I have no clue how to get back to where we were. It's awkward because we didn't really fight, but I miss her enormously and feel helpless knowing she's trying to escape. Is it already too late or any suggestions on how I can fix things out? TC: 180
Perhaps spend time with her?
Won't it look clingy if I just start doing it after things went awkwardly cold?
You decide if you want to lose her because she feels she isn't important to you, or if you really wanna be with her and show her she is important.
Sometimes you just have to give some space and let things settle. The harder you try the worse it might get. Do some other activities that’ll help you take your mind off of this for a while. Keep the communication channel open with your gf, and just be normal.
The thing is that in this situation I didn't really try to do anything at all. It's seems appropriate to start acting, but the "start" part is hard to get properly.
> I didn't really try to do anything at all. This is exactly where the problem lies. When she expressed her disappointment, she expected you to understand and make changes, which you didn't. So I think she is now giving up on you. It's time you talk to her and make some changes. There's a reason they say relationships require effort and understanding.
Why don't you use your grown up words and talk to her?
Don’t give out the flood of feelings in one gush but start some interesting date nights - and make them count ;)
Do you work @Azure? things seem like cloudy.
Almost everything at Microsoft is called Azure these days
Just change the text of your question and send that baby in a text to your gf :) or even better call her and let her know you miss her
U r so close to losing someone who “was” genuinely interested in you. Once a girl loses interest it’s like being on a PIP. Invest as much time as you can and hope for the best. If things don’t work out assume it was for the best and add it to your relationship lessons.
And start interviewing outside, because like a PIP you're not likely to come back from it.
Talk to her
Asking strangers on Blind won’t help, you need to be talking to her at this point. She’s probably going to leave you anyway over that TC.
Getting your likes with those TC comments?
Someone working at Oath shouldn’t be be taking about about TC.