Hi guys. For those who work as software engineer in tech. How do u get girlfriend? How do u became richer than those finance in hedge fund? I’m an aspiring software engineer but I have antisocial disorder, aspeger spectrum. Do international kids have more chance to find girlfriend in nyc or in seattle?
How can we possibly answer without knowing your TC?
Im a student graduating next year. Tc 0
Then your dating pool is also 0
Date the thick gurls
Cant bro
Why can't you
Nyc and seattle girls are especially known to prefer foreigners. So, I’d suggest you burn your American passport and get an Indian or Chinese passport. Work on your accent, and only talk about money and coding if you manage to get a date with a girl. That should work.
I thought nyc girls like those in banking finance white dudes. Im international vietnamese
Only if you’re like the wolf of wall street. Good. Then emphasize your background. Wear traditional Vietnamese clothes to your dates.
Half the population are women. You’ll find them everywhere. Some don’t care about money, some do. If you want to “get” a girlfriend, work on yourself until you are the best version of yourself you can be. That friendlier, more outgoing, more understanding, physically fitter version of you will have more options.
terrifying that I had to scroll this far to get a legitimately good and serious answer
Google is the best
By “antisocial disorder” do you mean antisocial personality disorder? As in you’re a legit sociopath/psychopath?
Probably sociopath.
In that case, I’d probably refrain from dating. I know it’s pretty common for people with ASPD to avoid serious relationships for fear of hurting others. It’s the responsible thing to do since there’s really no cure.
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Get a gf before getting into software engineering
Girl here - it's a numbers game. You have to try and you don't know who will like you so try a lot. I just recently got married and my husband doesn't have hobbies either and was super awkward before I got to know him but he does have high TC (which I care about much more than hobbies). But more importantly, he treats me well and is a kind soul and we just get along - it's not something that can be described on paper. If you get over fear of rejection and show genuine interest in a lot of girls, it's just a matter of time until you have a girlfriend.
So you are gold digger cause u care about TC ?
Thats fine. Gold is easier to get than personality tbh
1) You get a GF before you graduate 2) You don't become richer than those in hedge fund unless you are lucky (between 15 and 22 only) 3) You don't need to worry about being anti-social to be an engineer, although you may run into problem if you want to be a people manager if you are anti-social. Do what you love and good at, you may not get rich but you will be able to tough out a lot more than doing a good paying job that you hate.
NYC is the best major city for dating as a male, as there's more single women than men. That being said work on your social skills and career and the rest takes care of itself
How can I get them hot nyc girls? They all go to bar, for tech bros we just go boardgame, museum, hiking and brew at most.
Bumble (better quality in my experience than Tinder), most people dont leave the house.