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Question about women in their 30âs?
So when I go out with people and order like one entree alone.... But everyone else orders appetizers, deserts, drinks.... And the bill comes and we split the total bill evenly by the number of people... I feel that's not fair... I didn't order drinks or whatever.....like I just want to pay for what I ordered. Why do restaurants do that? Why is it so uncommon to just bill the individual what they ordered??? I might sound cheap, but I am saving money for something but still want to socialize so I go out and order something in my budget but then it doesn't matter since I'm also partially paying for everyone else's order. Am I the only one annoyed at this?
In that case, enjoy the appetizers, desserts and drinks. If you are going to pay for it, you might as well enjoy it! đ
Not everyone drinks or eats fatty desserts. It's usually drinkers freeloading on non drinkers when this happens.
Agree about the drinks and I have been in these situations a lot of times. If itâs just a few bucks here and there, thatâs fine I feel, especially with friends. If it adds anything above 20% to the bill, occasionally, I would be fine but if it happens more than a couple times, I would call out the freeloaders. Again, with true friends, this wouldnât be an issue. With acquaintances or âfriendsâ, it can be.
Have you tried asking for itemized/split check? I personally do not see anything wrong with it. Enjoy your $80steak and pay separately :)
It's a lot of overhead for the restaurants to bill everyone for their portions individually. They still will if you explicitly ask for it. The only other suggestion I can think of is to volunteer to pay the entire bill, and then split it individually (rather than evenly) on Splitwise.
Every country in the world gives itemized bills except America
Venmo!
This.
Are these friends that youâre going out with? If so, just tell them that youâre happy to do this occasionally, but really donât feel like paying their tabs. If youâre not comfortable having this convo, just ask the waiter for a separate check before you order
I have a friend who always asks for a separate bill right when he places the order, no one is bothered by it. It's also easier for the server to do so in the beginning than it would be to do so in the end
As a waiter and restaurant co-owner, I can confirm it is much easier if I know in advance. I can do it after the fact but it requires me to remember who ordered what across 8 or 10 tables. Sometimes I guess. Another option is to look at the bill and put in cash with tax and a generous tip. Then they can split the rest. If it's a few dollars, you're being cheap (I've served those people) but the scenario can easily get expensive, so if you're on a budget or saving for something, I think you're being frugal, not cheap.
Agreed, I also don't look at the price on the menu I get what I like, and I certainly don't expect my friends to pick up my share. That's what I find cheap.
If it's clear that everyone binged on everything, and you just had a small salad and hung out, they shouldn't be mad if you request a separate bill just for your order, and then let the others split the test of the bill. Unless you've actually had a bunch of the appetizers, reasonable people would be okay with this.
If money is so important for you , change your friends!
I disagree with the people saying youâre cheap. Agreeing to hang out with your friends and have a good time isnât the same as agreeing to subsidize their drinks and meals. Hereâs a few options: 1) Ask the waiter up front for your own separate bill. If the waiter canât/wonât split it you can: 2) Bring enough cash to cover your order and tip. 3) Use Venmo or a similar app to pay your share. If your freeloading and/or lazy friends arenât cool with one of these options, either take the low road and double down on your orders so you all pay more, or take the high road and stop hanging out with them if theyâre going to keep treating you like an eating and drinking subsidy.
Yes, you are cheap
Or your friends are insensitive to your financial situation. Itâs like asking your friend to go horseback riding when the friend arenât rich enough to own a horse.
No he is not cheap! Others are being cheap and unfair.