Spouse says I’m not supporting him correctly
Situation: I’m on work visa. Husband on H4 but has transferable H1. Looking for a job (last 6 months) but didn’t find yet. Says that my support as “train and go to interviews” is stupid support and I should support him differently. When I’m asking - “how then? What are you expecting from me?” He says “I don’t know”. What you would say? Is he reasonable?
Collective moment of silence for the brother out there in the trenches, at OP's house...
A hug for starters? Job search is stressful, and stating the obvious isn't gonna help. It's like telling people "don't worry", which only makes them to worry more. Just spend some time together, so he can relax and forget about it for some time. Giving him such break is something you can do.
I agree. This is the best help you can give. I wish I had someone who would do that for me :(
BJs
Are you kidding me?
He’s right. Your reaction is probably the problem.
TC or GTFO
Troll spotted.
Maybe you are angry with him that he hasn’t got a job for 6 months. And that’s showing through your body language and other subtle clues. Ask yourself deeply whether you are really supporting him.
Honestly? I’m tired of his “I want back to home country, everyone here is shit, no one helps, and you are arrogant bitсh”, but I understand his pain and not pushing him at all. Should I pass interview for him or what he is expecting?)
Support him for what he is.
Kick his non-working self to the curb and find a decent guy.
Sounds like he's frustrated and taking it out on you a bit.
Exactly!
Sounds like he needs therapy to better express his feelings.
Sounds like he has the time...
Why do you think he got the time in the first place?