I met my girlfriend in college in the US, and after graduating, I got a job here, and she returned to our country. I've dated her for over 3 years now, and I'm pretty sure I won't be able to find someone that I love more than her. The only issue is that she does not want to live in the US. Do I break up with her and chase the green card and US life or do I go back and marry her but live in a country I don't want to be in? I'm 25, maybe there will be somebody else? I just can't imagine loving someone more than her.
It sounds like you're in a challenging situation where you have to weigh your love for your girlfriend against your desire to live in the US. Consider having an open and honest conversation with her about your feelings and aspirations. Together, you can explore potential compromises or solutions that align with both of your goals. Keep in mind that making decisions solely for a green card or because of fear of not finding someone else might not lead to long-term happiness. Reflect on your priorities and values before making any choices.
Bro is chatgpt
Advice is solid
Go with the girl if your heart says so. But, don't blame the girl later that you sacrificed your career for her.
3Y in at 25Y old - follow your heart! There will be enough time left in your life for course correction. And too much time for the constant regret of „what if“.
You won't get the green card otherwise too.
Someone not wanting to live in the US is a huge red flag.
Why
What's wrong with not wanting to live in country where you can get shot at or your children can get shot at ?
You can always come back to the US later and at least have another shot at convincing her if you go back with her now Consider yourself lucky to have such a choice
If you have to decide now, break up. At least one of you will resent the other for being in a country you don't want to be in. And that's assuming you stay together. There's a chance she is using geography as a reason to break up. You could promise to move and then she'll think of something else. There are plenty of fish in the sea. The person you love(d) in college is usually not the person you end up with long term anyway.
+100 Make sure country is not just an excuse
I can’t tell u whether u shud go for the girl or the country - but I can tell u : this whole “Plenty of fish ….” Attitude is not gonna work . If this is your first love … it will be very difficult to get over it and then again find someone u can connect with. Not saying it won’t or can’t happen… but connecting with people and trusting people is the most difficult thing to do as u get older ..
30 years down the line which path would you regret not taking? Theres your answer.
There are billions of women in the world. BILLIONS. Let that sink in. Don't screw up your life for what will likely not work out and further lead to resentment when you bitterly look back at missing your ticket due to naiveté. Put yourself and your career first, since nobody else will.
this may be a little above blinds pay grade.
Way above
Blind always choose tc