When I was close to the end of the hiring process, I had to withdraw due to personal reasons (family incidents). Both manager and HR told me to rethink my decision as we’ve come so far to get approval from the board and I haven’t even taken a look at the contract yet. I said I don’t mind taking a look but just want them to keep in mind what thoughts have been on my mind. Two weeks passed and I received the official offer. I set up a meeting between the three of us to tell them I still don’t want to take the offer. This is when the manager actually started acting like a completely different person. He said he doesn’t care at this point why I don’t want the offer. He only cared that I wasted two weeks of his time. I said I also put in time/effort into making the decision and that it’s unfair that he thinks he’s the only one at lost. Anyways, the meeting ended awkwardly without any goodbye whatsoever. I see this whole thing as a misunderstanding. I did give a possible start date, which lead them to think it’s a YES from my side. However I was more thinking of it as a necessary information for completing the contract. I don’t like having any bad relationship with anyone, especially in the same industry, so I’m thinking of writing an email to the manager and see if we can still stay friendly with each other. Now I need opinion on whether you guys think it’s a good idea to contact the manager or should I just leave it? If yes, I don’t want to make it sound like it’s completely my fault, so how would be a better way to formulate that I just want us to be cool? Thanks for reading my long post. *update* current TC: 62,000€ offer: $150,000 (base) YOE: 1.5 #tech #tesla #softwareengineer
Seems like you dodged a bullet
many friends also told me so, but I’m not sure if they just said it because they know me. Which is also I want to post here to get some less-biased feedback
Absolutely dodged a bullet. Thank you for sharing, stay away. Don’t look back
Just do nothing and move on
No letter you write is going to smooth this over with that kind of person. Chalk it up to an unfortunate occurrence and leave it alone. They are the ones acting unprofessionally here, not you. The less written communication you have out there which might make it seem like you're taking the blame, the better.
Thanks for the reply. I also have been thinking what I could’ve done better or if I was the one being unprofessional here.
Just let it go.. don't waste his time further off you have no intention of joining..
I initially had but due to family incidents I had to withdraw, which unfortunately happened when we were close to the end of the process
Don’t bother. Next time don’t apply if you’re not serious.
I was serious, but things just changed throughout the course. (I didn’t apply though. HR reached out to me on linkedin and I said I’d be interested)
Ok
How could you say this, this is a complete opposite conversation we had. You event didn’t told about it previously and at the end of offer discussion you just told I don’t think Tesla is not a good company. I don’t want to hear that for the place where I work. Anyways you can go anywhere you want but don’t waste other peoples time.
it’s not about tesla being a good company or not. I just can’t take the offer anymore because of personal reasons. Maybe just a bit more information here: I had another offer before we even started the process. I was completely transparent with them so they were fully aware of the fact that I would need to choose between those two in the end.
👀 is there some more background knowledge that we don’t know about?
It’s a minor thing. It happens. He’s not turned your enemy. He just over reacted. Most of the ppl out there are anyways pretending to be good. This one just stop pretending when he realised that he can’t get you onboard anyways. Move on!
thanks for the comment
Walk away.
Don't contact. Now that you know his true collors, it's good you didn't join
Fuck yea