I am a British guy living in Bay Area (30 years). I am decent looking. I do get decent matches with apps like Bumble etc. However I like audio chat more than texting. So after exchanging a few messages, I request them to talk on phone/Skype. I do understand that girls means not be willing to share their number so I ask for Skype. However as soon as I ask that, the girls stop replying. Why is that so? I am not desperate at all. It’s just that I don’t like texting at all and feel it’s a waste of time. In a 10 minute phone conversation I can know lot more about a person as compared to 1 hour texting. So what’s the stigma for audio chat in US? Is there a kind of unsaid rule where you should exchange X amount of messages for Y amount of days before deciding to talk on phone?
Post your profile pic
This is anonymous forum
Hot or not: Blind edition
From a girl’s perspective, I don’t give out my number before I meet ppl so they can’t find me on social media or contact me if I don’t think it’ll go past a first date. Sounds like you understand this. As for Skype, Skype can be another form of social media and personally, it is associated with my full name and email address. Two things I wouldn’t want a stranger on dating apps to know. This may seem over protective but there are a lot of weird guys out there and girls need to be more cautious than men when online dating. Especially if they are single parents. That’s my two cents.
What do you think a SAFE way to do an audio chat before meeting? I truly understand a girls perspective and don’t want to meet someone who I don’t have chemistry with. However I can only do small talks over texts. Only able to do deeper conversations through voice/meeting.
This might seem counter intuitive. But asking to meet irl feels safer. Specially if it's at a coffee shop or public space. Always leaving the space for the other person to say no is important and if they do that, just move on.
Not many girls like audio chatting. Just meet up! I give out my number but am very annoyed when I need to spend time talking to the guy.
Text is asynchronous, voice/video is synchronous and takes a bigger time commitment. For many women, past experience tells them that a Skype request means they will end up talking to a penis. Talking with you requires more overhead than texting with someone else, so they move on.
Thanks. I usually say audio chat through Skype but guess they take it the wrong way.
Because it's super creepy to ask to video chat.
I specifically say audio chat on Skype/G Hangouts!
I never had issues getting phone numbers. They would instantly block me once I start texting though!
No one audio chats in the U.S. dude just ask them out for dinner. Screw the chit chat phone text bull shit, straight up ask to goto dinner like a real date and most girls will say yes. Edit: and if ur white and British you will get girls of all races so easily in the Bay Area. Chicks dig that accent like no other.
Minimize time spent chatting online. Try to meet in person. Also Skype has become commonly associated with video chat. Not audio calls. Also Skype sucks these days. It’s all Gurdeeps fault. Does anyone even still use it?
India
12h
2638
Why is it so G*damn difficult to move money out of India
Cars
Yesterday
1738
Cyber truck killer: Chinese version of EV truck
AMA
Yesterday
2795
I have worked at TikTok US core tech for 3 years. AMA.
Tech Industry
Yesterday
3498
I do tech screens at Google. AMA
Tech Industry
Yesterday
2900
I am so fked. Renege Meta offer?
Seems like since vid chat is more rare, maybe they think you have bad motives? Scared you might take off your pants on camera? I’d say phone number comes before Skype, perceived as safer
Oh I never thought about that. I meant audio chat. I have seen American women are very reluctant to give out their phone number. Maybe I can request google voice chat? But not everyone will have that number.