I (35F) went to a movie night social gathering last evening and bonded with this one cute guy. He chatted earlier during the event and he sat next to me during the movie (this was at someone's place). Slowly he was leaning towards me and cozied up; towards the end we were holding hands, it was so romantic and cute. Iam usually very shy and have been trying so hard to date and meet new people. So I took this opportunity to go with the flow! I was so happy to be able to do this with someone and generally felt nice about another human showing interest. When we left the event; we both were in the elevator alone and had polite exchange of chats. We got to the parking lot together, gave a hug and parted ways. He didn't ask my number, didn't say anything. I wasn't sure of anything so just left it off too. This has happened to me the past, I go with the flow. But then they never follow-up. Is this just normal, random guys hold hands with random girls and continue going on with life? I could have been proactive, I didn't. Update 1- so I messaged him on the meetup and he replied saying how he enjoying meeting as on the movie night. We exchanged messages on what other meetups we go to. He didn't further chat.. so I left it off oh well. I also found him as a potential match on a dating app and I didn't match. 🙄
Outrageous thought: You could have asked for his number?
Everyone is scared of rejection. Everyone. Perhaps he was nervous. I have, on many occasions, talked myself out of asking a stranger for their contact info - even when clear signs told me I had nothing to worry about. I’d encourage you to feel more comfortable going making the first move if that’s what you want.
Us guys are pretty dense. We need some obvious cues you're interested, otherwise we assume you're not and leave it before feeling creepy. Or we also appreciate girls that initiate. We don't mind if you as for our numbers.
You could have asked for his number or offered to give him yours. I think he was just nervous and backed out at the last minute. If he had more clear signs from you, he would have asked for it (guys sometimes are pretty dense)
Reach out to the organizer. Let it be known you enjoyed his company and want to connect. Life is TOO short
It’s 2019. If you liked him you should have asked for his phone number.
Two possibilities 1. Fear of rejection 2. In a relationship He definitely didn’t “forget”
I typically dont ask as well, fear of rejection or not sounding too anxious to get going this quick. You can always ask your mutual friend around what he thought of you. Someone in your.party had to know him
It's through a meetup, so he is there. I could message, but wanted the male opinion before I embarrass myself
I think he just forgot to ask. Hopefully he'll read this post.
Actually, no, I think he might have been shy as well and "going with the flow" is easier than using words.
Dang that sucks. He was so nervous when he held my hands. FML