This is a story of my 6 month pregnant wife and I. I picked my mother-in-law and my wife yesterday from the airport. My wife has been staying with her mom for the past few months for the pregnancy, and now she is back to home with her until the baby is delivered. I have been taking care of the house, the lawn, and continue to work as a SWE everyday, and I call her every single day. Long story short, she came back and started rummage through my phone and found that I have once downloaded a streaming app like TikTok through an old text 2FA, and believed firmly I have cheated on her. It didn’t help that I cleaned the house before they came so stuff like linens are moved places, and I have also thrown away some old condoms because she is pregnant. She cursed at me all night, asking me to leave the house after I picked them up at 11pm. I spent a whole clean up the house ready for their arrival and have never cheated on her or even in private contact with any females other than mom. BTW, my wife hated my mom. She later use my cellphone to send a group post telling all my relatives and friends that I am a cheater, and tagged my mom. I deleted it pretty quick but still a lot of people have seen it, and one of my mom’s contact took a screenshot and send her the posts. My mom told me she knows I’m in pain, and leave if necessary. The second day (I managed stay at the house for the night), I was driving and taking them to lunch, she cursed and belittled me all the way. Her mom finally decided to go back to the house. Then, my wife hit me, then while I held her arms, she bit me and demand I buy a ticket for her mom to flight back. My mom-in-law is having none of it. She believes I did not cheat, and her daughter is insane, but she can’t take the heat no more. But if she leaves, no one would be able to take care of my pregnant wife, and she will continue to abuse me... I feel so unappreciated and defeated. I don’t want to abandon my pregnant wife, because she needs care right now, but I can also no longer taken the abuse further. Today is my birthday, and it’s the worst birthday in my life.
Take a deep breath. You need some alone time. And then both do counseling.
Pregancy can be very, very hard on some women; she may not even realize what she is doing. If she is willing to do counseling with you, that can help alot.
She is not willing. I asked her. She was bad tempered before and she has definitely got more paranoid now she’s pregnant. I ran out successfully this time, once before she’s pregnant, she blocked my car and alarmed all the neighbors. I’m hiding in my local library now...
The cheating projection episode is concerning. However, I must add your wife being pregnant means she’s a walking barrel of hormones exploding and over clocking her brain. Give her some space. I hate taking heat when I’ve done nothing to deserve it, but you have to look at her as a person with mental issues. I bet she also wants to get out of that loop. But her biological situation won’t let her.
I felt she might be unconsciously aware but can’t stop herself. She just kept on and on. This is also the reason I’m still around... I hope after all these years, she’d know me better.
Good judgement. I’ve been through 2 babies, and the reality of it is no 2 women have the same experience, just as anybody else, everybody is biologically different, and have more or less hormonal “issues.” Everybody wants to defend themselves when challenged with a lie, but she’s your wife and she’s creating a human being, which is both amazing and really hard. If whatever you have to say only serves you, and you know it’ll create more madness, just save it. I’m not saying just eat shit and shut up, but be cold, analyze the situation, and optimize for happiness in the end.
Sorry to hear that. Hold on and chin up. Things will change soon. Divert your mind to something else while physically present there.
Just do the right thing. Go for a walk. Or do something else. I usually tend to go for a big hike when things don't go expected. She'll come around once the baby is out. She's too busy with baby anyway
Hiding in the local library right now... like a chicken, yes.
Not like a chicken. Go for a drive or a hike like a boss or check out Airbnb adventures and do something to focus your negative energy elsewhere. Once you master this, it works in magical ways with your job etc
must be a liberal guy.
Your wife is the problem You are treated as a slave
She’s definitely cheating, probably multiple times
Hey man! So sorry to hear this. It seems like there is some unhealthy marriage stuff going on. You guys might need to go have some counseling. Her hormones might also be hitting max imbalance at this time in her pregnancy. All the best bud! Have faith, it will get better.
Time heals everything. Good times will come back. Be calm and don't react much to her.. I feel sad for you hearing the story.
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Reported...the world needs more empathy man