Guys who are not good looking, have no place in this world! I’m not so bad, probably 3/10, but I’m Indian. I paid money to tinder to se me if anyone right swiped me. Nothing in 6 months! Sent so many messages on Ok Cupid, not one reply. What do I do? Is there an app for avg looking guys? I am really good at my job and have money.
You need to build ur personality. Also, depends on what you are looking for. You haven’t mentioned that.
Anything! I don’t have any criteria. How do I show my personality? How do I find out what’s lacking?
Come on man. You need to have a criteria. Are you looking for love? Just sex? A short term relationship but more than just sex ? Just a good friend to hang out ? Or may be long term partner? You are the only one who can answer it. From your last reply, I see u r desperate. Don’t be. You are much more than that. Developing personality has multiple sides to it - being self confident, showing respect, acting your age, dressing for the occasion, knowing ur audience. Everything can and will have an influence in your personality. Start by making incremental improvements in your life. Do you workout? If not, start it. FB reimburses I believe. Use it. You will see a sustained spike in your confidence level. That’s the basic. It will give you a good head start for your goals. Go to happy hours with your colleagues, network with people outside of tech. Heard of Shapr? Chk it out. In today’s world getting a date is not a big deal, sticking with one is what makes it worthwhile. Good luck man.
Dress well, be charming, work out/be athletic. That’s the remaining 5 points you’re looking for. No guy is a 10/10 based on just looks.
I exercise (don’t have anything else to do) but I also like to eat, so it balances out
Put the fork down
Damn dude. No matches or responses at all?! I'd say that's because your pictures are probably terrible. Groom yourself nicely, check out /r/malefashionadvice, and take better pics. Anyone can look good!
Will do!
Just because you are good at programming doesn’t make you a desirable mate. Maybe you are boring AF. Just having money doesn’t mean anything in SV, everyone has money. you need to be worthy and deserving of female accompaniment. Better yourself, make yourself interesting, be a good listener and a good conversationalist.
I can, but where so I find a woman to talk to? Nothing on apps. The women I know in real life work with me or are wives of my friends
It’s called hobbies. Find some that allow you to socialize. Try some of the local organized mixers. There’s tons in the Bay Area.
Have you considered going to yoga classes or meditation groups? Not only will you improve your mental and physical health, you will meet many women.
I have not, but I love this! I’ll sign up for something this weekend. Thank you!
You are welcome! Wishing you the best of luck!
And I am not a loner. I have guy friends that I hang out with. I am the guy who always gets friend zoned
I've noticed that everything happens when people finally stop trying and just go enjoying life. So if all else fails, just go live for you, and it'll come :)
That’s some next level thinking!
I really, really doubt looks are your problem...
You work at FB. I’m in the same boat at a shittier company chill the fuck out
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I’m also ugly and brown but I don’t make sick money
Arranged marriage 😍
That’s my last option
On OK cupid what does your profile say? If your interests are cricket, computers, and anime then that eliminates like 95% of potential matches. Generally I'd say be honest but you may want to go a little more generic if your profile paints a narrow picture of your life. There are plenty of 5/10 girls. Go get them and good luck!