I am already married (over 11 years) but have heard from several people that the online dating scene is hard for many reasons. It seems like the solution is to engage in regular activities with people face to face (sports, hiking, martial arts, dancing etc.) And ask people out on dates IRL. This avoids so many problems and allows you to pick up on so much more than people can put in an online profile. If they say no then no time wasted; if yes then at least they are agreeing to what they've seen so far so less chance of rejection out of the gate. Can you comment on this? Is it fear of rejection that drives people to use the apps vs asking out in person?
Not everybody likes to go out and make more connections or may like to do activities in solitude. Mostly as you grow older you already have a social circle and hang out with them.
Scott Galloway recently spoke at a WSJ conference where he mentioned that people’s time spent outside is an indicator of people’s success. The clip went viral in TikTok where gen Z called out him as boomer and made fun of his statement. This is from his blog, “Meeting strangers and experiencing novel environments is fundamental to human growth. Our podcast producer, Caroline, said this week that she’s cultivating a practice of "say yes to everything." I love this. The comfortable and the familiar are the harbingers of weakness and fear. Without rejection and awkwardness, you won’t experience victory or true satisfaction … that you’ve achieved something. Greatness is in the agency of others, as is true reward. A common saying in my youth: "Nothing good happens after 2 a.m." This was mostly true, as the "after" part usually involved (more) alcohol and chasing a high and an environment that peaked at midnight. The chase, if repeated too often, can begin to impair your ability to register progress during the day, which is key to your success at night. Simply put … it’s all about what you do during the day. I believe this should be modified for a post-Covid world to "it’s all about what you do outside of the home." The point of differentiation between those making a living and those having a significant impact will, I believe, be a function of their success in the physical presence of others.”
Activities for the purpose of dating seem like an awkward situation to be in, where many of the other people are there to focus on the activity and not to be hit on. And of course, the density of people looking to date is much smaller than online
Most women do not do any of these activities. At least the attractive ones anyway. The attractive ones usually just hang up with their friends group
Wow you just called a bunch of us women who do activities unattractive 😂
We now sit at home mostly and dating pool is really small.
Ok, well isnt it worth getting out and doing stuff in order to meet people?
Doing stuff just to date or meet people doesn't feel good. You do some stuff and meet people naturally.