Top red flags in guy to see before saying yes to marriage (arranged)
Inflexible, not agreeable, controlling, pressuring for anything at all, lack of boundaries
Problem is it’s hard to identify these early on? Isn’t it a gamble?
Yes, so don’t go for arranged marriage. Or atleast visit them and go on a few dates?
Doesn’t try to get to know you. Treats you like an object. It will only get worse.
This. He needs to be very curious about you, your expectations, your desires, your lifestyle. Not just trying to see if you would agree to his desires.
Try to understand his thought process. Guys from India move to USA but still have very cheap mental model. E.g. is he ok for wife to work after kids? Is cooking at home only wife's responsibility?
And don’t forget to bring back up his Indian cultural values when he asks for a Prenup 😂
+1 to what my Lyft colleague said
Isn't an arranged marriage a big enough red flag? 🤣🤣🤣
Facts
Can’t believe had to scroll down so far to find this.
- Doesn't know basic cooking and taking care of the house. You're looking at a man child ! - His views about having kids or no kids, if they match with yours or not. Also if he can be an equal parent. - Male Ego ! - if he has issues with you flourishing in your career and perhaps have a better pay package than him. - What does he think about you both taking care of your parents, along with his - Finances ! How do you both plan to manage the common expenses and plan for your common goals. - How involved/interfering his family seems to be. P.S. : Female, married for over a decade.
OP, this list is spot on. Also make sure you bring the same to the table, if not, don’t expect the same.
Unmarried male here, but totally agree with this list!
Depends on what you want..what are your red flags
Red flag if he seems toooo nice. He is being fake AF.
Mama’s boy living with his parents.
Arranged marriage is already a huge red flag. This isn’t the 1800s 🤦🏼
This is an oxymoron statement. Not one process is better than the other. It finally comes to the commitment the couple have for each other and loving each other. I am Indian. I was ‘introduced’ to my wife by my parents, got to know her for a limited time (6months), got married and have been married for 27 yrs. I love her so much, and definitely I get the better end of the deal. It saddens me to think how many people miss out on good marriages by bickering upon less important things.
Small d*ck
I don’t think you understand arranged marriage lol
I don't think you understand it. Check everything