What aspects of life to grow in in my 20s?
Hit my mid-20s but I don’t think I am doing life right. Been too career + money focused, especially with the pandemic. The mindset served me well and I have a good nest, but now I am trying to course correct since I am behind in other ways. In order to better live I want to grow in the following (in no order): * Hobbies (I have a few, just need to make time for it) * Travel (never really done this too much, gone to London + Mumbai + Singapore) * Working out + self care (need to make time for it too) * Dating (never really put much time into it) What are things that you wished you focused on in your 20s aside from career + money? TC: 300K
Have unprotected sex with strangers
And turn into a bully like you.
Not living in Fear and doing what your heart desires. For example, Going places even solo or to an event because it’s a new experience and it teaches you some life lessons. Also you make a memory which is way more valuable than anything else imo.
If thats what you want, do it
I love the “protected/unprotected” sex comments. As for me, just do the needful, OP. Just do the needful. Note: don’t have unprotected/protected sex with a crazy. It’s not worth it.
ah but that’s the best sex
What does needful mean?
If you wfh. Head to Europe / UK / Asia for a while and stay in cheap Airbnb /vrno. Did this a few years ago, but in my 40’s and I regret not doing in my twenties. You can stay in most places for 3 months on tourist visa. With the USD the way it is at the moment, it will get you further overseas atm.
dating and sex as people have already been pointed out 😂 shit I’m there with you. the career/money grind, pandemic, and lockdowns messed me up, it’s been slow getting back into it. an essential need/part of being human.
Do the needful
My nest is average but I’m working on building friendships, having some fun, spending more time with family and my relationship with my fiancé. I’m gonna be more career focused when I hit my early 30s.👌😎
Hope you can spare some tips on how you are working on those things, looks like you are on a great path already
We all have aspects of ourselves that we feel define us, that feel fun and potentially fulfilling to nurture. I grew up super unfulfilled in very specific aspects to life and I’ve spent a portion of my adulthood trying to focus on those aspects now that I have freedom, control and tech money. An example that’s a bit extreme but I have no regrets about is that a band I loved since I was 14 that literally never tours outside of their small European country was part of a lineup in a random festival that I happened to come across on Facebook. Immediately I bought flights, Airbnb and a ticket to see them. It was almost reflexive because it would have meant that much to see them, and it did! Knowing myself that well has come from therapy, journaling, and partially ignoring what other people think which was easy for me as I grew up kind of an outsider with few friends.
I wish I had understood earlier in life that there’s no “being behind” in life. Behind from who? From your Christian friends that are marrying and making a home? From your party friends that have traveled all over the world to have fun? From your sporty friends that are super fit? From Instagram influencers? From celebrities? You are not “behind” anyone. There’s no behind. You can’t be behind all these people since none of them are even going the same direction. There’s no behind. There’s only different directions in life. Choose your own. Don’t follow any one. Follow what you wish to do. The hard part is knowing what you want. But it helps if you first understand that you have to do what YOU want. Not what your christian friends, or your party friend, or your sporty friend or anyone wants. We all want different things. Don’t try to figure out what you “should” do. Try to figure out what you want to do.
Have protected sex.
Lol, good thing I was protected man. Hope things worked out on your end.