I am sick of explaining myself every week and it seems like “getting married is only topic being discussed at home” What can be done to get out of this recurring discussion with parents? I am staying at home with my parents since COVID blew normalcy. I am preparing & actively giving interviews got rejected 3-4 times sometimes at 3rd/4th round (i think system design let me down) I am a physically healthy 30yrs old guy who workouts 6 times a week at the gym. #wfh #marriage EDIT1# Glad to inform guys that got an offer from Microsoft (India), now 1st task done onto 2nd & bigger one, thinking of creating acc on one of the Matrimonial Sites. But honestly, I have doubts as to how much crap one might have to navigate thru in order to find good matches ol9, Any suggestions are welcome.
30 yrs is just about right time to get married (that is if you believe in marriage and shit).
I agree its the right age to settle down, came close to settling down twice in the past but Coz of ‘x’ no of reasons things went south n it didnt worked out as expected. Also I can’t settle down n spoil my life just for the namesake unless i am genuinely interested.
OP ur parents r here😀
“What can be done to get out of this recurring discussion with parents?” Looks like you answered your own qn right after: “I am staying at home with parents since COVID blew normalcy.”
Just buy gme
And fly to the MooN
What he says!
Do they accept the fact that you want to meet the girl you fall in love with or they want to force you into an arranged marriage?
They expect me to say yes after meeting a stranger once & 2-3weeks of conversation over calls/WhatsApp. Than get engaged in a month And married in 3-4 months. Next demand I suspect wud be to have kids in a year too.
Ouch! I’d be like: “So you’d rather have a divorced son than the one that takes time to get married? I’m not going to compromise and chances of a great fit when I met a person once are really low. Do you really want to go through the wedding to only see me divorced in a year?”
R u working at Adobe?
Yup
You're 30 years old, move out
I was n will be out again shortly after, moved to hometown due to lockdown n restrictions
Marriage is not like FAANG that you will feel you are ready to join because of high TC. If you believe in marriage then you know 30 years is a good age in fact more than good age to get married. If you don't believe in marriage then tell you parents and get out of that situation. There is a right time for everything. I don't think your parents are annoying you but you are actually annoying them. And you are not ready for system design at 30 so you know who is annoying.
never said i am not interested in marriage, But rather the short timeline which is being forced upon to decide, Which isn’t enouf for me to make my decision. & hence I have default to saying no as only option. Also don’t see how not being at the top of the game for sys design interviews is related to me being annoying?
Surprised with the poll results, it’s kinda demotivating! 😶
What were you doing uptill now? Any gf?
have answered above somewhere but no issue I will re-type, Have been in 2 serious relationships but for some reasons beyond my control those didn’t pan out in the end. Other than above also wasted some tym fooling around which i think now did no good should have instead spend time to find one for long term. Just like everyone else never thought there wud come a time when social interactions wud b thing of the past. I gel well it doesn’t take long for knowing someone if i find someone interesting. Just this ducking COVID took ol that opportunity away.
Are you Indian
Do you need to even ask. LoL 😹😆
@alpaca yes @amikondlru 😆