Mid 30s, F here, never married. I match/ get requests on a regular basis including younger men on Dilmil & Hinge, we match but most of the guys chat rarely as if they are visiting these apps for routine check up’s. If we manage to get to a point of exchanging numbers, the guy doesn’t make time to talk. Not sure where I’m going wrong or if I’m just matching with men who aren’t looking for serious commitments. I’m located in the east coast but not sure if that’s an issue when the guys match.#dating #relationships
Drop them like hot cakes. The guys probably don't have you as first priority and are being flakey. And why speak with someone who makes it obvious with their actions that they're not very into you? This holds true for both sexes. Girl giving one word answers and doesn't initiate? Unmatch. There are better fish in the sea.
I heard the opposite, women tend to do this a lot
Many guys just keep swiping right mindlessly when the match rate is non existent. Once matched, then they make up their mind about making the move. Unfortunate but an efficient way.
You’re matching with men who the other 80% of women match with. They have lots of choice so they don’t feel the need to spend the effort on you. Try matching with the guys you’d swipe left on and you’ll see the difference
They found someone hot.
Maybe they found someone with green card
While love is natural to all of us, dating is a skill (which you can get better at) and many people are bad at using dating apps. Here’s what I’ve found to be successful in my years of using dating apps and finding serious relationships from dating apps: - Don’t exchange numbers without making a plan to meet up in person. A conversation will fizzle away without momentum. - Many women prefer to take things slow and chat more on an app before meeting in person, but that often starts creating unrealistic expectations of that person, you start filling in the gaps with your own imagination. How you are together digitally doesn’t translate to in person chemistry. I have many friends who chatted with people over apps during the pandemic, exchanges many video calls and texts before meeting up in person only to discover they don’t actually vibe in real life. I recommend getting to scheduling a date to meet in person within a few messages to get the ball rolling. Wouldn’t you want to know if you guys click sooner rather than later? - Many people are just bad at texting in general. Dating coaches call it “zero questions”, a curt response with no follow up questions essentially shuts down a conversation. Both guys and girls are responsible for this, and conversations require a two way street. Both people need to be engaged. Keeping a conversation going requires asking questions and providing something for them to respond to.
No, you should absolutely bring up that you are looking for long term commitment. It makes no sense for anyone to waste their time and experience heartbreak with someone who doesn’t have the same goals. You shouldn’t jump headfirst into a relationship and move too quickly in the beginning, but it’s important that your goals are aligned from the beginning. Many attractive people get plenty of matches. My boyfriend is 6’1, very handsome, is charismatic, and he told me straight up on our first date he’s looking for something serious. It’s absolutely possible for attractive people to look for something serious and still be picky about who they date.
Thanks Meta, all good points.
how do you rate yourself on a scale of 10?
7 or 8 maybe (I’m 5 6’, brown, I consider myself as average)
How can you rate yourself as 7 or 8 and consider yourself average. On a scale of 1-10 average is 5.
Some men swipe right on every woman so a match doesn't mean that they like you.
Wow ok so desperate?
Maybe they deleted the app or no longer use the app