How successful, rich, charismatic, powerful etc do you have to be for attractive women to actively flirt with you? Obviously Leo DiCaprio has that but I am asking about the bottom of that range for that to happen - ex multimillionaire, successful dentist, etc
Just be attractive. You’d be surprised how much women are willing to put up with, or straight up ignore when you’re attractive. I’m ugly, but have attractive friends. Girls might not stick around with most of them because they pack the personality, but god damn do they throw themselves at them. Forget everything you know about traditional dating, today is very transactional, women have unlimited options, because they have their pick. Remember the ratios of men to women in dating apps. Join purplepilldebate on Reddit, it will give you a different view. My advice as an old ugly guy trying to improve: 1. Focus on physical self improvement (weights, diet, cardio) 2. Then on external appearance, like clothing, skin 3. Then internal growth and developing strong personality and mindset 4 finally, never simp. Realize that your growth is more important. Keep trudging along, improving constantly, never simping. This helps cultivate an abundance mentality which is not only good when it comes to women, but also generally in life. You’re welcome.
“Women have unlimited options” only means anything if you aren’t on top of your game. If you are attractive to other women, make good money (and willing to spend it), not a timid b***h and also willing the commit… the chance of you a girl dropping you when she knows that you could easily replace her is basically zero. Literally the only time I’ve ever had women “Leave” is when I wouldn’t commit after about 6 months-1 year (basically once she found a decent replacement that she could see actually committing)
@tigerboy What do you want from these women ? Why do you want to go out of the way to do so much effort (imbalanced and unequal effort) to please them ? Have you reflected on your self worth ? How about finding a woman who will accept you the way you are ?
DiCaprio dates young women who are inexperienced and impressed by his looks, humor, and ability to love bomb them. As they mature they see past the shiny outside and end up leaving. If you want those kinds of relationships then be good looking, have some charm, be somewhat popular in your social circle, and date young women who are just starting their careers so you look like you’re very successful.
He leaves the young women at 25 not the other way around
Adobe used some copium. “They see past the shiny outside”. Grow up
Lol I like how you list Leo- an A list celebrity for 25 years since he was in his 20s who’s gotten an Academy award. Successful dentist? Lol You can be a working musician and girls will chase you. 🤡
Dentist lol, maybe nurses will flirt with you. No one will flirt with you just because there are more zeros in your account balance/NW because they won’t know about it. The trick involves: 1. Having top dollars, even 50M is fine, the challenge is to make that visible in the way you live without going broke. 2. Power will give the women falling under that power flirt with you. But mind you that they won’t have sex with you just because you have power. There is a difference in flirting with you a bit to keep you happy vs crossing the line for you. 3. Charisma: how would I quantify that?
You don't necessarily have to be rich to achieve that just find a way to show the illusion of being rich. However way you achieve that doesn't really matter
This is not an easy thing to compute. And it’s a vain approach to relationships. But to entertain this I find having a simple mental model helps. Rich will get gold diggers. As an example divide people up into a simple class structure. Multibillion > multimillion > 6figure > 5figure > trailer park. People are hypergamous some more than others. Each lower class will be very attracted to the higher class. The larger the gap between classes, the more attraction, until you deal with ignorant people. Ignorant people don’t have the capacity to see the difference and it requires more than wealth to attract them. Low body fat and muscles will get a variety of people from different classes. Success doesn’t attract women it keeps them around. Power - idk I’ve never had it. Charisma attracts everyone and keeps them around. People like to be happy and make happy memories. At the end of the day, everyone is different and so it is hard to compute what amount of x characteristic will attract y persons. Perhaps pick someone and get to know them. Find out if they actually attract you beyond the vanity of initial attraction. Figure out if they can be trusted with making memories together. Can you be trusted with making happy memories?
You just need to be tall and have status where you go. Either your friends treating you like the G in front of a group of women at a bar (local optima) or else something that usually commands respect like being rich or a ton of social media followers (global optima)
I’m really wondering how many of these replies are actually from women lol. As a woman, I actually don’t really flirt with men but the men I don’t automatically shoo away when they flirt with me are guys who are funny. You’d be surprised how many “ugly” guys I’ve felt like the heart emoji for just because they made me laugh in a natural, unforced way. There’s a reason people think Pete Davidson is so attractive. Also just being kind and thinking about us. I always gauge dates by how thoughtful they were and then attraction is second. Offering to pay for the date, offering to drive me home, but not being pushy about it when I say no, asking to let me know I get home so they know I get home safe, etc. Bottom line is, so many men think that they need these superficial things to get a good woman and yes, when women are in their early 20s they’ll put up with your bullshit because they’re young and have never learned that they deserve to be treated right. But if you’re a guy that treats them well just for the sake of being kind and seeing them as a human worthy of respect and not just because you want to sleep with them, you will have a woman in the palm of your hand because we realize how rare it is.
Ah yeah a comment above me said you need to be tall and that is true ngl
As a woman I agree. The guy I can be silly with is king. All the guys I crushed on hard were the ones who made me laugh. I don’t notice height. But really that goes to show physical attributes are not universal for women
It’s very cultural. In Europe, women are much less likely to wait to be approached if they see someone they like. In some cultures, women are judged as too masculine or misinterpreted as “easy” if they are the approacher.
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