I have a friend... let’s call him opportunistic... when he needs help he is all over and begging but when he is all set and in good spot he wouldn’t take a second to show off that he is in better spot and won’t even acknowledge that he ever took help.. Long story - this guy was a great friend and coworker and I did a lot for him during my good days and I never really asked for anything... I referred him to all Positions at apple whenever he asked even though he barely qualified..I invited him for lunches at apple... Tables turned and he got a job at google and I had personal situation which made me quit my job at apple and when I asked him to refer me at google he literally shut me off by saying I won’t qualify... even though I was clearly qualified... at times won’t answer my text or phone since I wasnt of much help.. Seems he has been put on pip and I heard from him after a while and he was trying to indirectly wanting me to refer him at uber.. I did not entertain anything as I recalled how he treated me during my rough phase.. Last week he invited me to a family party which is a big surprise for me as he would normally invite others over me.. Debating should I go?
Paaji ... don't go .. he is selfish and only inviting you because he needs a favor . He does not really care about you .
Don't go ...he is a big sucker !! Cut him loose
If you believe in karma then do good to others no matter what...But don’t go to party.
Doing good to bad people is considered bad karma :)
Not returning favor is selfish. What is the definition of bad ? Harming others for no reason I guess? This so called friend is just selfish not a terrorist. Helping others is about make yourself feel good and peaceful too.
If you don't respect yourself, why should he (or anyone else)? If you do respect yourself, you don't need me to tell you what you should be doing. Always forgive (don't remain angry at a person for wrongs, you are poisoning your own mind), NEVER forget.
Paaji you are not alone. In desi circle, such friends are common :-) Just ignore him
Unless you want to get off with him - no, there is no reason to go to that party. 🍆
Dont go.
I would go to the party and then when he asks for a favor tell him he is not qualified.
No