females w/relatively high income: does your pay come in the way of dating/relationship/marriage?
Just curious. Also a female.
Huh?
No. If someone is douche enough to actually have a problem with your achievements, dump them post haste and consider it a bullet dodged.
Fair enough. Although I don’t think of douches as in the dating pool in the first place.
Not initially, but I think it creeps up later on — only in the sense that it’s worth discussing financials eventually, as it would be with any relationship.
Only guys who are insecure will take your achievements personally. But my question is that can you respect a guy who makes less than you? I made 2x more than my ex and it’s not a problem to me. Being a provider to me isn’t about being a provider financially. However he was never supportive of me so I had to let him go. He was very insecure and would’ve preferred me being housewife
Why can't you respect a guy who makes less than you? This is sexist thinking.
A lot of women don’t like it when guys make less than us. It’s not sexist thinking. It’s practical thinking. I would not date a blue collar worker for example, but would date a professional even if he makes less than me. A lot of women are not ok being w someone who doesn’t pull their share of financial security in the relationship. Don’t hate the messenger.
Of course - no dude wants to stay home with the kids voluntarily.
That's not true at all
Are you a male that stays home with your kids?
Any guy that would let a women’s income affect their opinion of her, especially if she makes more than him isn’t worth dating anyway...grow a pair and be happy that you have someone that can really contribute and try to build something lasting.
Yes, it seems okay until reality sets in - esp when they cannot do the same activities with you. I often meet guys who do not have much disposable income. Example is going to Maui for a a week for about $3k (airfare, hotel, car). I try to travel every few years - that is not that much.
$3k every couple years is definitely not a lot, but there are lots of other places, especially Latin America that you could possibly do for way cheaper...if you liked the guy and wanted to make it easier on their wallet...but I get it, if there is too great of a income gap, things get tough, unless your always picking up the bill.
Yea, I got tired of picking up the bill. And it was my first time in Maui. :) Now back in the dating pool and am finding the same. 🤔 😫
If it matters to you that the guy can not do the same activities that you want due to lack of financial means, you can either pay for him too, or do things you both can afford ie hiking, or find a guy that is just as wealthy and has a similar mindset. Your choice.
Paying for my SO to have a good time? Ew!
You mean using the same decision tree that men have used for centuries?
No it has never been an issue for us. At times I have earned more than him and other times he has earned more. On an average I have been higher. With mature couples, it won’t be a problem.
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