I have a deep rooted confession to make!! I was in a relationship with a wonderful girl for 3 years. Some mutual friends introduced us and she would never have considered me, had it not been for the good words put in by my friends. She is exceptionally good looking, earning more than me, extremely fun loving but accepted myself, a moderate looking, balded guy very openly. Her favorite motto was "you only love once", because of which she was ready to do anything and everything for a happy family. My parents wanted a punjabi girl for me, thus when my mom called her family for union, she mentioned that I will be moving back to India next year. My ex kept her foot down when it came to moving back to India. She wanted to keep discussing a midway and wasn't willing to say yes. Hence, I had to dump her and came to visit India for 6 months. I am getting married to a girl back here in a few days. My fiance recently called my ex to trash talk, calling her "obsessed ex" and all sorts of names, telling her she had attachment issues since she lost her dad many years back. Even my family is happy that the girl is out of the picture but somewhere I am very scared if this will all come back to me. Already my fiance has a non-tech career with no job in the states, and I don't know her that well either. My ex helped me design and book a house which just got ready for move-in, she took care of me while I studied for a new program manager job which I got recently as well and most importantly, she taught me how to be with a girl. She has been on anti-anxiety pills for quite some time since she really wants to continue life from where I left off. She is in a miserable state and I might have been the worst boyfriend dumping her like this but i do care for her a lottt. Have you guys experienced karma, is it a real thing?? TC 130K #dating #marriage #relationships
Basing off of to the fundamental physics laws, I do suspect that everything you’ll do would have a reaction of the same magnitude. It feels like everything in our known world is a transaction; so it’s better to be careful because there’s never no consequences to what you do
You dumped her just because your mom asked you to?
My mom was just being a little harsh saying I will go back next year, but realistically I just got the house so I will stay there for 2-3 years before moving back!!
Are you 💯 sure about marrying your fiancé ? It looks like you are not, you might end up with regret for your ex girlfriend at the same time you won’t be happy with your marriage if you are still thinking about your ex. It’s never too late. Get back to your ex.
As I told, a lot has happened in the last few days. My family called her place, my fiance insulted her from my phone number and what not. I obviously regret that marriage not happening, it was the best and most profitable alliance, but I don't think that's a remote possibility now!!
OP, I hate you for what you did - to be honest you never loved her - as in the above comment you said its profitable alliance - poor girl, your ex is emotionally invested and you just are calculated individual. I wish karma hits you real hard.
There is no such thing is karma. It's our own imagination or wishful thinking if I may say so. We often think that karma will catch up with those that cause us harm. But pain is something that the brain processes. Pain/happiness/sadness is a manifestation of our mind.
Thank bro. I hope that too. I think me getting married will automatically cause her to deal with the pain and get done with it!!
Doesn't matter. Her pain is her pain.. nothing to do with you.. There is no such thing is god/karma/deeds or anything.
Karma exists but it may not bite you in this life, so you are good I guess. For eg, Bezos made many people suffer, he probably will not get it back in this life but in one of his next lives.
I don't think so. It doesn't work like that. Also it's our own karma that we signed up for Amazon. Like it's our own bad karma by that logic because of which we are trapped in here. By that logic Bezos is a mere facilitator of the almighty.
Bezos tried to manipulate, fools got manipulated. Bezos has to pay !
What you did was totally p*ssy act. Won't support but do some Seva it will help to cut bad karma.
Reach out to your ex and marry her. Say you fucked up and apologize.
I don't think that's a possibility at all. Even though my ex will not commit to any guy in the future, she will never accept me after the words me and my fiance sent her to cut her off!!
Did you want to be in India or stay back with her? Did you not have a say in this and was only your mom? Just ask yourself who you want to be with in the long term. You said your ex did a lot for you and you barely know the new girl. The nee girl also called your ex and trash talked her(someone who taught you a lot and loved you a lot) which was unnecessary. Did you tell her not to do such things? Is this the kind of person you want to be with ?
Do you love your ex? I guess too late for you in the game now. Was in a similar situation few years back, still regret the decision I took.
Yes of course I do. She was the most pretty and fun loving person I ever met!!
Dm me your ex's info, seems like she deserves someone nicer....like me.
Yes, it is. Stand up and marry her.
That ship has sailed. My fiance made me block her from everywhere, had me call her family to make her stop calling me and I am getting married to a girl in India in few days!!
It hasn't but looking at your comments and thoughts, it's really good for your ex. If you can't not stand for what is right for you, you won't stand for any. I feel pity for your fiance, She is going to marry a spineless creature. I may be over judging you but this is what I could read from all of your responses. Your ex doesn't deserve you.