im pretty ugly and i have a hard time talking to girls. im also super shy and literally havent even held a girls hand. should i just go back to india and get an arranged marriage? i dont think i can last longer here by myself...
Girls are not just interested in looks but a number of things. There is a system that's involved in it all and you just need to learn it. I can definitely help you.
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It's not your fault. Unfortunately the Indian culture does not set its current generation up for social success in the Western world. This is because the Western world focuses on individualism over the homogeneous community based social customs in India. This can cause a lot of mental stress for Indian immigrants in America. Fortunately this is a learnable skill set that you need to invest a lot of time in. There are controversial groups out there that can get results for you. However the process of shifting from a community based mindset to that of individualism is a dark process for an adult to go through. This is a difficult path. You can DM me so I can talk more about it privately.
That's an interesting way to articulate it.
What is your job and tc? What part of India? I wouldn’t mind getting an arranged marriage at all. I’m an Indian who grew up here in the states Even if you get an arranged marriage I would be sure to develop basic people skills and healthy relationship with your masculinity. Even in a marriage you need this. Feel free to message me
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Try to kill one-eyed 🐍 few times a day to begin with ... Then grow your TC and makes move
What is TC?
Total compensation
Get into rock climbing, eat healthy and exercise. Dress to impress and you can change yourself bro. Took me a long time to get it, but now Ive got it down to a science.
A few questions I would ask you: Do you know yourself well enough? What defines you besides your job? What are things you like to do and are passionate about besides work? How’s your support network here? Do you have solid groups of friends and family nearby you can spend time and do stuff with? Where are you at in terms of your goals and where you’re at in life? Are you happy with where you’re at regardless if you have someone or not? I would consider those questions before you think that having someone in your life is the key to fixing your happiness/loneliness. Have seen way too many friends get in bad relationships wasting time because they thought that was the cure to their loneliness and happiness. Best of luck out there!
Go back to India and arrange marriage
Sorry to hear, OP. If it's any help, know that you are not alone. As others have mentioned, social integration is probably the hardest part of life here (immigration coming a close second, or first, depending on how you see it). And it's impact is grossly under-estimated, exacerbated by how different Indian culture is to American culture, in this regard. One could get lost in this loud, individualist culture that's always screaming 'Me, Me, Me!'. Like others have also suggested, I'd also suggest volunteering somewhere where you preferably have the opportunity to come face-to-face with those you are helping, if you have the time. Think old age homes, food-banks, or your local church or temple. Really! Try that! While this may not get you a life-partner (at least not directly), it might help alleviate the unbearable loneliness you feel.
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