so i met this girl from who is kazhak and lives in turkey (speaks russian, turkish, english) and im american (white). she is 23 and im 35. shes an amazing person and wants to get married and im guessing wants to get out of turkey before erdogan turns it to rubble. She is smart and is studying petroleum engineering and could easily get a job at chevron here in bay area. What do i need to worry about here? age difference? getting her greencard/naturalized etc? leaving me after getting citizenship? any advice here would be appreciated....
Just enjoy it. Don’t worry. Do what’s in your control which is to be loving. And if you are being loved. Don’t stress. It is tough to change countries and a lot of stress for her. So it’s a good time to support and care and show your love and help her through the changes.
You're not for her and she's not for you !!!!
What is this bullshit? If two humans want to do the thing who the fuck are you to tell them not to.
If he has all these assholic calculations going on, then it's better to be alone. Why the fuck is he posting these things here. Prolly he needs some push to make a decision. This is not the right forum
Have you tapped it a lot?
yes a lot...last time i visited everyday for a week...
she also has a stong interest in getting pregnant too...she says her family has a history of not being able to get pregnant in late 20’s
My husband worked in turkey and he has a lot of stories regarding women in Turkey, so all of your concerns are valid. But who knows about the future and also one can’t generalize . Get to know her well and during tough circumstances and see how she reacts? If you are serious then tell her your darkest secrets and the worst baggage .. will she still love you ?
She is not Turkish.
Be wary, many foreign women will chase after greencard/citizenship because that is the smartest thing for them to do. If she’s seriously pushing for marriage right away before spending a few months with you, that is a telling sign.
she cant really spend time with me because shes in school. shes coming to visit in september for two weeks
Did you meet her in a chat room and never meet her face to face. Cuz then you’re likely getting played.
i’m not that stupid...ive visited her/she has visited me like 5x...
Sign a strong pre-nupt
yeah, was thinking that.
+1, if u like her go for it Also consider her career prospects, unless you are ok being a single earner which in my opinion is a bug problem in Bay Area if u want to live a quality life Avoid pregnancy until you sort the above two
Make her sign a 1000 year love contract like in Scientology
Prenup?
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Bro if you like her just do it. Figuratively and literally.