Gf of 5 years, now fiancé or 4 months; feel like I made a huge mistake in proposing (in Catalina in case you’re reading). I have just been depressed ever since. Why do I get so much attention from girls after I got engaged ? TC 490K.
Now that you’ve made this post, send a link to her and spare that poor soul for someone who deserves her
I wish she would read it.
I really hope she reads this and gets rid of you
Why a big mistake? Girls find you more desirable as you’re less accessible now, or perhaps the engagement reduces the risk of you asking them out
We moved to nyc after engagement and I got a job paying me almost 2x. I think I can get someone much younger (she’s 31) and hotter (she’s at best a 6). I’m 32.
FYI: Nothing in this world is free. The hotter and younger girl, if and when you find her, will have things that you will not like.
Just let her go. She's definitely going to be happier with someone, so you're doing a noble thing. You'll get one of those hot young girls you're getting attention from, and your current gf will be happy with someone who thinks she's 100 out of 10.
But how. I’m sure she’s gonna cry a lot and hate me and then I have to deal with both our parents being hard on me about it.
Well, what do you think she's going to do once she finds out you consider her 6/10 and didn't really love her all this time? Be kind to her and quit it, both of you are going to benefit from this. Not sure about you but she definitely will.
why did you propose at all? family pressure?
Yeah. A lot of that, then pressure from her and from friends/peers. I would need an entirely new friend group if I were to leave her. I think it would take my parents a few years to get good with me again
what's the ideal outcome you're looking for if you split up? or is it more cold feet about commitment? also TC/ and your own rating out of 10?
Don’t be weak, tell her Or if you think you have the value to command polygyny or a one sided open marriage, you could attempt that as well if that’s what you want But the absolute worst thing you can do to both her and yourself is lie about it and/or ignore it Who’s chasing whom? The impact of gender and relationship status on mate poaching - https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0022103109001048 “The results showed that only single women were more interested in pursuing an attached target rather than a single target. We discuss how these results add to what is already known about mate poaching.” “90% of single women indicated interest in an already attached male vs 59% who indicated interest in the same male who was stated to be single.” “Single women in this study were significantly more interested in the target when he was attached. This may be because an attached man has demonstrated his ability to commit and in some ways his qualities have already been "pre-screened" by another woman.” “There was no significant effect for men viewing pictures of women.” That’s why it’s a common saying for guys to say they struggle to get any attention from the opposite sex when they’re single but ironically easy when they’re not Human mate-choice copying is domain-general social learning - https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-018-19770-8
Oh very intersting. Guess I should have always pretended to have a gf
People want what they can't have. When they have you, they will want what they can't have. Don't be this person and stay away from such people.
If you love her, that extra attention will mean nothing. Just like recruiters calling you when you are already happily employed.
No matter how happily employed I am if a recruiter offers me 2x comp I will take the call. most of us will
Well, I won't, if it's going to take time away from my family and make them feel awful that I'm not there. I hope you know that those women you are lusting over will leave you tomorrow if you lose your job. Why don't you try it? Quit your job and see how many remain. You are throwing away true love.
You will accumulate karma of using a woman for just kama(lust). This might result in childlessness, impotency and suffering for next 7 lifetimes as per Vedas
Woman should be respected by default unless she herself wants to be disrespected by others.
Amazon I learnt to tell harsh truth from AtGoogle. It might be hard for you to digest as a woman but it's very much real. You will see it when you get older. We can't beat the law of nature coz you never know if you are inside maya(illusion of world) or if maya is inside you.
Why do you want to break up with me! My TC is 400k.
Competition time!
George costanza? Is that you ? We never had a deal !
What kind of question is that?
Straightforward one