Going through a particularly strong one right now. Work sucks because the only real job I got after layoffs last year was in a city 2h away from family by flight, never caught the break in the housing market so renting it is for the next decade, no idea what my career path is like and any other job closer to family would mean a big pay cut which means not enough to invest, rock bottom in NW compared to all my peers, lack of confidence and self esteem and can’t find a good therapist that isn’t just like “how does that make you feel?” (you know how I feel, that’s why I’m here ya fuckin paint bucket). I’m trying to work out more but I’m so consumed trying to make the most out of the new job (and even that I’m not convinced I’m crushing it). They say don’t compare yourself but the whole world runs on comparisons, wtf is supply and demand curve other than comparison? They say be happy with what you have but what’s life without some ambitious goals? Just sit there and be fappy happy? Can’t even fuckin have post-nut clarity. Oy vey. On the bright side I’m not suicidal so I got that going for me which is nice. Thanks for reading. #mentalhealth
I hear you. It’s life. Some of us get the rough end of the stick. Just need to get through it.
Hang in there. Your peak is coming later.
It's a state of mind. Ensure the sleep diet exercise is on point and find pleasure in something outside of work to look forward to. Meditate too because chasing external joys only takes you so far, eventually you're in bed and ignoring what's inside you all day will rear it's head. For the wealth, you can also start a biz on the side.. use AI to do some of the lift like an online store. Or play the stocks, consult, or whatever you're good at. Or learn a skill that gets you into something different..
I kinda give up on life. Just doing whatever comes my way
What can I say? It sucks the position where you are right now, but that’s life, I have been there too, and I mean there is a position where you start wondering and asking yourself very deep questions such as what is the meaning of life. Depression runs in men in my family, we all look tough, angry and rude, but are prone to depression. Contradictory enough I got really depressed when I turned 30, because I felt I have reached all my goals when I arrived to US. Everything that I worked so hard for I had accomplished. I built a successful career, had married a beautiful and smart girl, I was healthy, able to travel and enjoy life. Yet I got really depressed. Mainly because I didn’t know what to do next, and also started to think that I have not accomplished enough. I am saying all this to get to the point that people could get depressed for the most various reasons, and most of the time for no reason at all. But the sadness and pain is real, I have been there. Something I find very interesting is that I come from a very poor country, and it was not common to hear someone was depressed, they were to focus on surviving. I think the pandemic of depression we have in this country is influenced by expectations, all the noise from social media and people telling you this is the country of opportunities, and that if you visualize, it manifest, if you work hard, it happens and Bla Bla Bla… noise and more noise. Reality is that you won’t achieve all your dreams, and that’s ok. life is not fair and all moments good and bad are transitory. Stop looking at your navel, to someone living in Africa, your problems sound like great problems to have. Continue to work on the things you want to achieve, but learn to detect the noise, be grateful for what you have, help others, and truly enjoy, Don’t wait to enjoy, spend and live until you retired, you don’t know if you will reach the seniors years and by then you are to old to start trying new things. Cheers to you!
DM me, I might be able to help you with a good therapist.
Wow this hit home for me. Especially the therapist piece. If I think of some good advice I’ll come back and let ya know. For now, wishing you luck, as it seems that is what we need these days.