I am a Tamil guy who grew up in Delhi. Growing up I was mostly surrounded by non-Tamilians. When I was in highschool I started liking this bengali girl. I thought she liked me too, because she would talk to me occasionally for no reason. Back then boys and girls used to be in their own group and interaction was very less. One day there was some commotion in the school. She happened to be near me when it happened. As a reflex, she held my hand. For me it was a beautiful moment and the commotion around us did not matter to me. A filmi moment for me. When the commotion was over I continued to hold her hand. …. For an extra… like 3 seconds. She realized she was holding my hand and she immediately let my hand go and rushed off. After that she never spoke to me. She avoided talking to me. Infact she even avoided looking at me. I was very hurt, confused and embarrassed because of this incident. This incident kinda changed how I viewed myself vis-a-vis girls. I concluded that i am not the kinda guy who any girl will like and if I do feel otherwise its just my perception and not the reality. I was also a very studious/nerdy guy. I focused completely on my studies - through the rest of my high school and college days. Never even tried to line-maro any girl. I worked in India for like 3 yrs and then got an opportunity in the US. After coming to US my personality changed somewhat. I became more flamboyant and confident. I improved my fitness. But deep inside, I was still the same guy when it came to girls ie I never thought any girl would be interested in me. It was during this phase of my life that one by one multiple girls entered my life. … all in a span of 6 months. (1) A korean girl - lets call her K Her father had worked in delhi in korean embassy as a junior official. So she had spent cpl of yrs in Delhi (at the same time I was living in Delhi as a kid). She could speak hindi to some extent and enjoyed bollywood movies. She was an intern in the company that i worked for. When I saw her the first time (as the group of interns were being introduced), I cannot explain it but there was a strange pull. Its like I wanted to know her more. When I approached her later, she was quite friendly. We hit it off great - as friends. (2) a mallu girl - lets call her M She was my peer. Like me she was a software developer. We used to peer review our codes and help each other with debugging. I enjoyed roasting her for any coding error and she used to do the same to me. Occasionally it would get ugly and we would stop talking to each other for few days. She was also a big anime fan. Her desktop screensaver had anime, she had some small figurines on her desk. One time, to roast me she compared me to a silly looking anime character… and since that character had a name that rhymed with my name, she made that as a nickname for me. It was to annoy me. At first I did get annoyed but later kust ignored it, because she continued calling me by that nickname. In any case, she was just a work friend and I never developed any feelings for her. The K girl was aware of this and she used to tell me that M likes me. I never believed that. She was aware of the nickname that M had made for me but did not know that it was actually an anime character name. On few occasions K told me that I should not let M call me by that name and that I should push back. (3). A malaysian Tamil girl Did not meet her at work. She came from a modest background and had a complicated family situation . Not into tech. She was very simple/sweet. I got interested in her only because she was Tamil. FYI - i’ve had almost no interaction with Tamil girls from the general populace. It was all limited to my sister/cousin sisters. Any impression that I had of Tamil girls were all the glorified version that I saw from Tamil movies. So always had a soft spot for Tamil girls. Right from when we met this Malaysian Tamil decided i am her guy. Her being Tamil, that kinda appeared a logical choice. But whenever we would meet, there was nothing to talk abt. Apart from tech, i have interest in history, philosophy…. But she and I had no commonality except her being Tamil. There was no chemistry. Whenever we met, there used to void and she used to just smile. At first that smile was cute.. but later it just annoyed me. After initial few meets i started getting disinterested in her and she responded by buying me senti gifts. I got guilt-tripped into meeting her few more times, but eventually i broke up with her. I did it in a very bad way. I still feel bad for the way I did it. I just told her to her face “you are boring”. She was very upset obviously but called me later and said she will read books so that we have something to talk abt. (Arghh… ) The interesting thing is - both the M and K girl were aware of each other as well as the malaysian girl. When i told them that I’ve stopped seeing the Tamil girl, K girl was like “I knew it”. M girl was extra nice to me after that. I was stupid.. and I didnt know why she was being nice to me. Infact i missed her old self when she would constantly find fault with me/my code. Eventually all of this had to come to a conclusion. Because the K girl’s internship got over, and she had to go. The M girl was on a temporary assignment from her Indian company and she had to move back as well. Thats it. Everyone gone Never heard from the malaysian girl M girl and I used to exchange emails but it was not the same as sitting next to each other for code review K girl left too. But we used to talk on phone. I filled the void by dating/hooking up with random girls. It just made me feel more pathetic. Part 2 here - How I met my wife (2) https://www.teamblind.com/us/s/bpkTaptJ
In part 2, the Bengali girl will make a reentry in slow motion (wind blowing, trees shaking, dolphins singing, lions pooping - all in the background). Their eyes meet and romantic upbeat music starts playing. They both get emotional, and she mentions that she got pregnant with their child due to the extra 3 second hand holding many moons ago. Guy apologizes for his behavior, takes responsibility for his actions, and they get married. Baby comes 9 months after wedding, total gestational period of 14 years though, and is declared a medical miracle by WHO - the end.
What do you want to say , if these incidents are affair , many of us hv scored half century
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it's hand holding girl 20 years later isn't it?
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She comes back later …..