Last night when sitting and drinking with some of my all single straight female friends one of my friends confessed that she has been going out with a married man. it didnt take much for the rest of my female friends to just bombard her with criticism and one even went as far as to tell her that she is probably still single because sheās a horrible person. I interjected and said that my friend isnāt cheating on anyone itās the man who is so we should reserve our criticism for the person who is breaking their promises instead of insulting the āotherā woman. Rest assured I was told I am selfish as well . This got me to wondering if a straight men shares his stories about either cheating on his partner or having casual sex with a married person does he face the same criticism ? PS - Iāve never been with anyone whos married or taken !
Your friends deserve better than you.
What ? What did I do ?
Cheating is obviously mutual, to think it's only on the man is, as your friends say, extremely selfish. Sounds like you're the only one who doesn't get that.
I would tell my friend to leave the relationship too.
If my friend would have asked me about getting into a relationship with a married man I would have said no too ....but now after they are already hooked up how is my friend more responsible for it than the man who is cheating on his wife? Thatās my question
She's not, she was just there. If there man was there he would have been criticized just as much if not more
Cheating cant be done single handedly. If your friend knew the guy is married - she is equally responsible. This is same for a girl (married) cheating with a guy(single)
Again my question is why are women held to higher standards than men!
No the standards are same. Sorry about the typo. I meant to say- this will be same for a girl cheating with a guy- both will be responsible.
I'm glad you were informed of your selfishness.
Care to explain? Or youāre just here to BS
Didn't they already explain this to you?
I agree that itās predominantly his problem and it sucks for his wife (unless theyāre in a open marriage or something) Iād probably tell her to break it off just because it seems like asking for drama / trouble, not because itās her fault
Thank you !!! my point exactly as a friend I told her to not get emotionally attached and try to break it up if she thinks itās getting seriousā¦ Itās not like my friend lured him into cheating on his wife for the first time
Both are at fault. Girl having an affair knowing guy is married. It should be big no. Unless itās NSA. Even then it might get complicated. And guy for breaking promises and cheating on partner. Guys usually donāt share such stuff with friends. But if one shares I guess friends would cheers and move on if guy is single. If married they might think less of the person or try to understand why would they cheat.
Thank you ! Thatās exactly my point that men and women are always held to different moral standards which is not fair .... even when itās the man cheating the āotherā woman is demonized by everybody ... and the man can easily get a leeway for ādoing what most men doā and go back to his happily married life ...
I guess girls who scrutinized her thought of her as possible cause leading to breaking of marriage. Regardless of man wanting to cheat if girl isnāt ok with it thatās one less reason. And since they may not know the guy thereās only one way to control the situation by affecting perception of one party involved. IMO
I know itās controversial, but I agree with you that there isnāt anything wrong with hooking up with married people. Youāre the one thatās cheating, not me. Stop trying to make it seem like Iām at fault when Iām just being single and hooking up.
Thank you šš¼ high time we stop blaming women for shit that men do
It's not about men vs women. Even if a guy is sleeping with a married woman, he played a part in her breaking her vows which is equally bad.
Itās not cheating if the husband has no issues
Non-monogamous relationships FTW
Is your friend hot?
Not relevant
Totally relevant