And why?
It's a difficult one. A lot of research show that people are actually way more happy before and way more happy when they become way older, but not when the kids are growing. But the same research shows that everyone is lying about it because they know it is what is supposed to be said.
Having kids is all joy but no fun
Yet, when old people look back, they say their happiest memories are from when their partner was alive and their young children were home. “What Do 90-Somethings Regret Most?” by Lydia Sohn https://link.medium.com/6AyOGzqmXU
This poll: there are very few women on blind
I like the representation of women on that poll.
It's the greatest thing in the world. I just finished cleaning up massive puke an hour ago and I won't trade it for anything in the world, discovering computers, Unix, C, Linux, lisp, python, kubernetes never brought such joy. There's a miracle to life, even if we one day build an artificial general intelligence, it will never hold the magic of watching a human child grow.
But I would rather kids are born at 2/3 years old. Infant period is a fuckin torture.
Intersting research would be to find out how much percentage wise people who have kids regret having kids vs people who didn't have kids regret not having kids. I think humans are very good at rationalizing whatever choices they make. It's not like people who don't have kids are sitting at home doing nothing - they have more time to pursue their hobbies, travel and looking back that's what they will say was great.
A lot depends on if you can provide for your kids and if you're in a good position in life. I'm paying more than most people pay in monthly rent in my state for daycare and I'm not thinking much about it. If money was a problem I would have massive regrets.
🤔What was I doing with my free time before kids. Oh yea, MMO and masturbate. After kid, it was playground and sandpit.
Kid brings greatest joy, and also great stress. There is no way you can ever regret having a kid.
Can't assume everyone has your perspective on this. On blind alone I've seen many people say they do regret it.
It might be just a knee jerk impulsive reaction, meant in the short term.
Have an 8 month old. It has been the best experience ever so far and I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world. Watching your kid grow and learn new stuff every day is just priceless. I still can’t get over it. Not saying it’s easy though. Takes a lot of work, but totally worth it.
Are you mom or dad?
Dad
I'd do anything to have kids of my own. My time has probably passed.
Interesting twist on a recurring poll.