I identify myself as a Bisexual man, however I am unsure if I am doing the right thing by marrying a woman. How do I let her know and keep her calm throughout life. I am the only child to my parents.. should I consider come out to them.. I am Indian and u know the works.. Pls suggest me a way out. For people who think I am gay, just not upfront about it. Please suggest me considering I am gay. It's not the title but a way out that I am looking for
Come clean, be honest, if you’re not interested, don’t marry her. Do what feels right and listen to your gut, you don’t want to get stuck in a marriage you don’t want to be in.
Well, when you marry, you choose 1 person. Doesn't matter how many others you can do.
But wouldn't this question work either way, whenever you are considering marriage with anyone, either a female or a male? Sounds like being bisexual isn't the problem. the problem is you wanting to have sex with multiple people. So your problem isn't unique. We all want to sex with multiple people, but in a relationship we settle down. Same advice for you.
Seek therapy
Feels that you're actually gay just haven't admitted to yourself yet. Bisexual wouldn't have this concern.
Considering I am gay. What would you suggest?
Dude, if you're gay, I'd say come out to your family, perhaps first to a few people who can have your back in convincing the ones that are harder to convince. Life is too long to make a compromise on something like a marriage.
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Your MAIN problem has nothing to do with sexuality. It’s marriage. Stay the fuck away from it! I understand Indians have this cultural thing about marriage, but just tell them you’re not interested. Now stop worrying about what your folks might want and go live your life. Be gay, be bi, be whatever you want to be! Just don’t fill out ANY paperwork that binds you to another person ESPECIALLY when you’re this unsure about your own sexuality.
Think you need to sort the gay vs bisexual thing first, since it's an entirely different issue. If you have found a female partner as a bisexual, then I don't think you should do anything (such as coming out) because there is no good reason for it.
I’d disagree about this. In the same boat as op except apparently i’m bad at hiding it since previous girls I dated have asked me if I was bi. With my current girlfriend I told her on the 3rd date and we moved on with life. It hasn’t been an issue for us.
@jf8s3b I think z5RtU7F is saying there's no need for disclosing beyond their partner. Sure tell them, but why would it be necessary to "come out" to the rest of the world? You're not sleeping with them so why is it necessary?
Be honest with your partners. If you're not ready to settle down I to a monogamous relationship don't.