Confused about myself

Apple FindMyWay
Apr 12 60 Comments

I often find myself confused about whether I am interested in men or women or both. I have been with couple of men but never been with a woman.
I do have a type when it comes to men and I am only attached to physically fit guys but at times I also find myself being attracted towards girls. I am afraid to explore that option because I feel I am not ready to accept it myself that I might be into women. Also if I do find it out then I won’t be able to do anything about it either because my family is really religious and conservative. Don’t know what should I do.
Anyone else in the same boat?

Update: I am a woman in my twenties

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  • Google / Eng🍑☁️
    This is not usually something monosexual people get confused about. You are probably on the bisexual spectrum. Congratulations on being the objectively best sexuality!
    Apr 1211
    • Google / Eng🍑☁️
      Attracted to only one gender. I.e. gay or straight.
      Apr 12
    • Yahoo gabdu
      Holy shit. There is word for that?
      Apr 12
    • Apple FindMyWay
      OP
      I don’t think it’s objectively the best sexuality because now I am confused and sacred.
      Apr 12
    • Google / Eng🍑☁️
      What are you afraid of?
      Apr 12
    • Apple FindMyWay
      OP
      I don’t know how I will react if I find out that I am into women. Also I am almost certain that I would never try and be with a woman even if I find out that I am into women because of my family
      Apr 12
    • Google / Eng🍑☁️
      If it bothers you, then you don't have to act on it. It can have as little effect on your life as you want it to have.
      Apr 12
    • Microsoft
      🐙M🐙

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      Apr 12
    • Apple FindMyWay
      OP
      I have been trying not to act on it for some time now and I do want to move on and not get bothered about it but every now and then I would see some hot woman and I would start questioning myself again. It’s a like a vicious cycle that I am trying to break constantly
      Posting here just to see if someone else is also going through the same situation and what are they doing about it
      Apr 12
    • Facebook
      Hhhl

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      Hhhlmore
      Life's short, explore your desires. Do you have a job and can support yourself and not reliant on your family? If so, don't worry what the old and out of touch people believe.

      If you don't explore your interest in women, I'm pretty certain it is going to eat at you and make you very unhappy. Perhaps you'll go on a date with a woman and find the love of your life, then you can decide what to do next.

      You probably should go spend some time talking to a sex positive therapist instead of talking to random people on blind.

      (me: bi guy who it took far too long to explore that side of myself and glad I did)
      Apr 12
    • Cimpress / EngGBmf58
      Bi non-binary person here - self exploration is incredibly rewarding. Don't shy away from a thing you don't understand about yourself just because it feels weird. Explore it. Talk about it. Reflect on it.
      Even if you decide it's not for you, you'll have learned something.
      Apr 12
  • Amazon Xebw23
    Try to be with a woman . Looks like you should experiment
    Apr 1210
    • Apple FindMyWay
      OP
      I agree that this is the most obvious thing to do but I can’t find it in myself to do it. I am just really scared to know the answer
      Apr 12
    • Amazon Xebw23
      Why are you scared?
      Apr 12
    • Amazon Xebw23
      Who the fuck cares if you like women
      Apr 12
    • Agilent Technologies q8shj
      I was confused about my sexuality in my early twenties as well. I tried a homosexual experience. Turned out I was straight, but I'm damn proud now that I have overcome my fear and didn't just try to suppress it.
      Apr 12
    • Amazon Xebw23
      Is there someone in particular you like?
      Apr 12
    • Apple FindMyWay
      OP
      @q8shj: You were brave and it’s great that you overcame it. Now no regrets/confusion for you.
      Apr 12
    • Apple FindMyWay
      OP
      @Xenw23: There isn’t someone particular at the moment but I do have a teeny-tiny crush on someone at work
      Apr 12
    • Amazon Xebw23
      Ok @findmyway DM if you want to talk about it
      Apr 12
    • Agilent Technologies q8shj
      @FindMyWay: I'm sorry, I wasn't trying to brag. My point was that being confused does not automatically means you're a bi (nor gay).
      Having a same-sex crush was a very scary thing to admit for me, but you're always in control of how far you want to go with it. Just stop as soon as you feel uncomfortable.
      Apr 12
    • Salesforce xortah17
      @FindMyWay Are you perhaps confusing admiration with actual crush in a romantic sense?
      Apr 16
  • Twitter Is Amazing
    Are you traditionally considered to be a female?
    Apr 123
    • Apple / EnggtUh6$
      Are you traditionally considered to be a Homo sapiens yourself?
      Apr 12
    • Apple FindMyWay
      OP
      Updated the post
      Apr 12
    • Uber ARPD37
      Bicurious sapiens 😤
      Apr 12
  • New vIPq64
    I sometimes think every woman is bi. I think the reason is that women are much more biologically capable of love, women are much more open to it. And love is something fluid that can manifest into sex.
    Apr 134
    • Cisco meowwww
      “Women are much more biologically capable of love “ ???? What
      Apr 13
    • I believe this too. Women better understand love than men.
      Apr 13
    • Apple FindMyWay
      OP
      I don’t necessarily agree that biologically women are more capable of love but I did read couple of research theories where scientists concluded from their research that majority of the women are bi. Some realize it and explore that side while others don’t
      Apr 13
    • New vIPq64
      Maybe not more capable of, but more prone or predisposed to.
      Apr 13
  • Amazon / Engwwwnull
    I feel like a lot of women find other women attractive. Doesn’t mean you’re bi
    Apr 123
    • Google / Eng🍑☁️
      What? Attraction is literally the defining characteristic
      Apr 12
    • Cisco meowwww
      If you feel sexual attraction towards women you’re bi
      Apr 13
    • New vIPq64
      Women are more prone to being bi. Women like to love.
      Apr 13
  • Yahoo gabdu
    Are you Millennial? Or may be you are millennial.
    Apr 120
  • Uber Trigger
    Easy test. Can u masturbate to a woman ? If so then u r into both
    Apr 123
    • Amazon lamardavis
      👆 seems logical to me
      Apr 12
    • Symantec Rejikevidu
      Such a man thing to say.
      Apr 12
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      @symantec, and why not? I enjoy watching guys blow one another and I have bi women friends who enjoy watching women have sex.
      Apr 12
  • Me. I get attracted to both men and women, depending upon their qualities. But I have only had bfs and am kinda done with them. Men and women want different things out of a relationship, and sometimes I feel very basic things which another woman can understand so easily (sometimes even without words), it's hard for men to understand.

    I have never been with a woman and probably never will be (just like you I am afraid to accept I may be into women and my family is conservative).

    Physically, I am more attracted to a hot woman than a hot man, maybe I just want to be like her. But emotionally I always tend to fall for men, and then getting hurt later, which makes me wonder if I can have a more fulfilling relationship with a woman.
    Apr 122
    • Apple FindMyWay
      OP
      This absolutely sucks!
      Apr 12
    • Amazon Xebw23
      Looks like you are a bi and had some bad relationships
      Apr 12
  • Amazon / EngDeepObsess
    Maybe you're confusing friendships with sexual attraction?
    Apr 121
    • Apple FindMyWay
      OP
      Initially I was thinking along the same lines but now I am pretty sure I am not.
      Apr 12
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  • Facebook

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    There's a lot of great opportunities for women to experiment with women in the Silicon Valley. Probably 80% of girls I ask out say they're lesbian
    Apr 136
    • Apple FindMyWay
      OP
      I find this hard to believe. I personally don’t know anyone who is Bi or gay and I do live in Silicon Valley
      Apr 13
    • Facebook
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      Whoosh
      Apr 13
    • Amazon / EngDeepObsess
      It's probably the easiest way to turn down a date
      Apr 13
    • Cisco meowwww
      I am bi and live in SF. Feel free to pm me
      Apr 13
    • Apple FindMyWay
      OP
      @meowwww are you a girl or a guy?
      Apr 13
    • Cisco meowwww
      Woman... not a girl
      Apr 13
  • Apple OFOM41
    Are you Indian?
    Apr 131
    • Apple FindMyWay
      OP
      What difference that makes?
      Apr 13
  • Tableau / Eng
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    ThePlaguemore
    Your family doesn't need to find out until you are in a serious relationship, and if you get to that point, you will probably not care at all.
    You can have all boyfriends and just one night stands with girls to try it out. No harm in that.
    Apr 131
    • New vIPq64
      I really don’t think it’s wise to hide such things. I think it’s best to be open and honest about who you are and want to be.
      Apr 13
  • Amazon elonmuskT
    Its okay to feel that way. You should give yourself the chance to explore both if you are attracted to both men & women.
    Hardest part is accepting yourself. Give that chance and who knows you might end up embracing that side of yourself.
    I come from a conservative family too, but I accepted myself and the way I have always felt towards same sex. I recently came out to friends and parents. It went great!!
    Apr 160
  • SAP mooooo
    See who you want to be with long term? Serious relationship wise
    Apr 120

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