Divorced at 30. Now what?
I invested the last four years in the relationship, and sadly, it became clear my husband valued his job and himself over our marriage and my well being. So, now I'm 30 and alone. I feel like I should force myself back into dating, because the older you get as a women, the less desirable you are. But, my heart isn't in it. Should I make myself to do it anyway? I don't want to go through life alone. I also feel like damaged goods. Who would want to take a risk with a young divorcee? Should I try to meet older guys instead? 40+? I don't even know where to meet someone that age (do normal non creepy older guys use dating apps nowadays?) and if we would even have anything in common due to a big generational gap. Anyway, I welcome any constructive thoughts on whether I should force myself to get back out there, and if I should be looking at an age group beyond my comfort zone (and where to even find them).
Take professional advice first, then try the dating scene, then if there are any issues in the dating scene, you can consult Blind.
Wow actual real advice, stay off this negative pit, get real help then go have some fun. Life is for living
First, respect on recognizing your value and getting out of that relationship. I think it’s much better than infidelity that often comes out of staying together for the wrong reason. Have you thought about taking the time to discover who you really are? Exploring yourself. Where about are you?
Who you really are? That will be defining yourself. Do not be limited by a definition. Be okay with not knowing who you are. Just enjoy the endless possibilities now.
Date when you’re ready to. You can only be in a good relationship when you’re ready to be in one. Right now, it doesn’t seem like you are. Take the time to get over this marriage and then date other men. No ones holding a gun to your head to make this happen right away, except for you. So chill out, take it easy and spend time with yourself first.
30 is still young. Pamper yourself a little. Go out and meet people. Have fun.
30 is super young! Don't let one bad relationship deter you from love. Just take your time.
You can date whatever age group you want. Some men like older women, some older men like women in their 30s. It's your life, and now that you're single, why don't you just do whatever the fuck you want to do?
Wait - don’t even consider dating. Take enough time to reconnect with yourself and relearn who you are as a single person. You aren’t in a bad position and your situation isn’t that uncommon. You are not doomed to a life of unhappiness, as much as it may feel like that now.
there will be someone out there that knows your worth, be patient.
Same advise as other. You are still super young, don't rush into dating and take this time to discover yourself. The reality is that no one can give you happiness, it starts and ends with you. Once you realize it , meeting other people and sharing your experiences with someone becomes natural.
You’re only moping because you haven’t started dating again yet. Once you do you’ll find a ton of guys that see you in ways you never did. 30 isn’t too late, I’d suggest looking for guys aged 30-35.