Do I like the girl I’m dating
I started dating this girl about 3 months back. Not my dream girl when it comes to looks. I wasn’t sure if I’ll ever like her because of that but I kept it going. Our discussions are becoming more and more interesting and engaging. We understand and like each other’s jokes and small things that brings those laughs with your partner. The way we react to or chat on any subject seems logical to both of us. I love all of this and it’s amazing. We have many common interests too. Basically apart from looks most things are the way I want in a relationship. Even when so many things seems to be fine I’m yet to feel like kissing her. Wanna know if I should even think about the looks in this case? Or will I eventually start liking her that way too? I’ve been in relationships before and I could imagine myself at least kissing my partner when it started. But this time it’s a lil different. Because it started with me thinking, no that’s not what I want but try it and now I’m writing this big paragraph here.
Sounds like she’s a great friend but you don’t have physical chemistry?
Well seems like you're taking it real slow. Probably expedite and spice things up a bit. Maybe she's great where it really matters.
That’s not how it works.
Sounds like Friend Zone territory.
Progress physically - kissing, making out, and whatever comes next. If the attraction still isn't there with your pants off, there is no chemistry and it ain't gonna work. But an "average looking" lady who is fun, gets you on every level, cares about you and is amazing in bed is FAR better than a model you cant stand being with.
If you’re not aroused or physically attracted then why are you wasting each other’s time? If you are an introvert that makes it hard to meet women or if you’re really wanting a relationship right now and can’t wait then I guess I understand why.
You're absolutely wasting her time, that's extremely disrespectful
She seems a great friend. Not more.
If you have to ask, then you don't really like her. Stop wasting her time and act like the adult you should be
Several things: 1. There should be physical attraction, for a long term relationship to be stable, enjoyable, and fun. 2. Looks are very important when you are young. But the looks are much less important over longer terms. Common mentality, interests, approach to life, are much more important. (Assuming that partner’s looks are above your lower barrier - which make take time, years for you to find out, where your barriers are). Starting slow is very good for a great long term relationship. I suggest you to start getting physical, and see what happens. It might also be good to ask your partner what she thinks and feel. Finding someone who can be a great friend and a great partner, at the same time, is very rare...
Have you two even had sex yet?
No because of the same reason.