Do I wait for her while she gets over her ex?
So I met this girl, went on two dates. We hit it off and I really like her. Catch is she just got out of a long relationship and called it off saying she’s not ready and wants to focus on work. Both of us are workaholics and I can see her throwing herself into work. I feel this was just bad timing. It’s been a month. Should I reach out again? I just can’t accept this is not going to work because I met her at a wrong time. Crowd sourcing some advice from you fine folks.
:( sorry to hear this. I think for now you should just text her casually. Not every day perhaps. Maybe tell her “hey work is so boring today”. Maybe ask to grab lunch/coffee once in awhile. If she likes you she will. If not, this is just wrong timing. I am going through the same but there is no sight of end suffering because she has a bf already. So... good luck!
Thanks and Good luck to you too!
What makes you think that when she's ready to date, she would not have already lost interest in you?
Wishful thinking
She may have just been letting you down gently with a plausible reason.
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Yeah...sorry OP. If you really like her then maybe consider trying to win her over? But limit yourself to one try, give it your all, so if it doesn't work out, you know there's nothing more you could have done. "There's a lot of fish in the sea" is generic advice...and it might not apply if you're in the Bay area or Seattle...but hey, not the end of the world.
Did her ex have a higher TC than you?
If it helps we are all new grads and mine trumps theirs.
When she says she is not ready, she means she is not ready for a relationship with you. She won’t be throwing herself at work, or at least not just at work, but at someone with a more fun dick than you. Time to move on to the next one. 🍆
You beat the shit outta me. I’ll take it. Can’t move on though that’s the problem.
This is not necessarily true
after the two dates, do you keep in contact while not on dates. How does that go? If you are not talking and just thinking about her, it would be a one way infatuation.
I asked her out on the third which is when she said we gotta call it off.
In that case it is a firm no, with nicer words. It has nothing to do with work, prior bf, or timing.
In my experience, the answer “I’m not ready for a new relationship” means “I do not like you”. Of course this might be just bad timing, but it is a long shot...
Yeah, wait for her until eternity.
Appreciate the sarcasm :)
Maybe you should not be an orbiter and find someone else.
TC or GTFO
TC