TL;DR: Got dumped, effin’ sucks. Time to uninstall dating apps and embrace LeetCode. At least if your solutions are rejected, you can still lookup the answer online and make it. But if a woman rejects you, you might never know why! I have been in a lot of short term relationships for years. Because of things that have happened in the past, those short term relationships never got converted to long term relationships because I used to run away at the first sight of red flags. Joined dating apps recently to probably increase the pool. Treated Tinder as LeetCode (for practice) and Bumble/CMB as on-site interviews. Met this amazing woman on Bumble. Hit it off instantly. Went on a few dates. Attractive girl, great personality and good sex ensued. Then I had to go on this much deserved long vacation (5 weeks). So that this didn’t fizzle out (because we weren’t exclusive), I kept her engaged as much as possible. And it was still going great! Planned things after I returned back too. Just after the turn of the New Year, I had to go to some remote places with very little internet. Even then I did my best to communicate whenever I did get the opportunity but I saw her replies waning a bit in terms of content. It’s like she was subliminally implementing an exponential backoff as her replies kept coming later and later. I thought maybe since people started work after the new year, it would be hectic. So I wasn’t alarmed. Got a text this morning that we shouldn’t be dating anymore. The reason provided was, “our personalities don’t match”. I still think that she just found someone else but of course, that would never be revealed. No concrete reply when pressed further so that I get closure. It’s like having a great day of onsite interviews but then get a canned “sorry but we need to move on” after 2-3 weeks of suspense. Friggin sucks! I guess I would be wallowing for a while, still not knowing the reason why... Just wanted to vent... TC: 9x of her.
Uh why are you making similes of your relationship with career stuff? “Bumble like onsite”, “tc 9x of hers”, “like getting rejected after a great onsite”, etc. lol
Saw a post a while back about how looking to max TC is basically the same path as relationships leading up to marriage. Parallels in the processes are striking hahah
This is Blind. Most are so accustomed to the lingo here, so thought they might find it relatable. Increasing TC is a way of life here...
Just check, you are not dumped list of 500. Layoff at McAfee.
Bro, you never get rejected. You are Top sarcastic Blind contributor, take a chill pill and breathe easy. Vent it out and get back to being top blind contributor.
Hey, at least you had sex
Something like, you still got the Joining bonus :D
So did you. In your username at least! 😊 In all seriousness, there comes a point in time when you crave for that emotional attachment more than anything else. And I thought I had found that. I was so wrong!
You talk too much that’s y
Talks nicely tho, I would get laid
You probably would dump her later tho, she did the job for you now so chill
You over pursued her and she lost interest. You lost the moment you started caring and putting her on a pedestal
Maybe you guys didn’t have chemistry in bed. I once slept with a guy and I couldn’t fathom sleeping with him again. He kept calling me and texting me to see me again but the sex was bad. I couldn’t bring myself to do it again. I would go through many months of dry period but I couldn’t go back with this guy. No amount of TC can makeup for bad sex. So forget the 9x
First shot is the last??
I don’t think that was the problem. We sexted quite a bit when I was (still am) on vacation and said that she would pounce on me as soon as I land. I still think it maybe someone else she thought she had a good personality match with. But alas, I can never find that out...
I found the manager/employee relationship more analogous to this story. The manager thought everything was going well based on their 1:1s but it turns out the employee has been interviewing with other companies all this time. The manager learns about the employee's decision to leave last minute when the employee has already made up her mind. Just some food for thought.
Can relate to this from an employee perspective. I never showed my cards until I had made my mind to switch. So the eventual, “Here is my two weeks notice” always came as a shock. Ugh!
Are you Chinese?
Is this the new customary “Are you Indian?” reply?