I feel terrible.. I'm 34. My personal life is messed up. My career is messed up. My health is messed up. Working my ass off, hating my job, dating new men every year only to know after months that they rather just be friends, interviewing with FNG and bunch of cool start ups but no offers - keep getting bumped off at the end. I've already done my fair bit of traveling. I want a partner who loves me, a job I like and a status quo that I don't feel terrible about. Wondering when all this will end. Not suicidal because I've personally experienced the ripple effects of that. But honestly, what's the point of my existence? Is it just to keep the wheel of society rolling? Are most things just an illusion of control? Do we even have control over anything? Is there an alternate way to live? Is there after life? I'm tired.
Whatâs wrong with your health?
Seriously?
Heart broken lady
Dm for advice. I'm in same shoes though
In a what ways have you tried to discuss this with others so far?
People tell me that I'm entitled and ungrateful and need to stop having imaginary problems. I cry in the bathroom all the time.
What are the main goals you'd like to achieve by speaking to others about this topic? What are your thoughts on speaking to a professional?
Not funny! You GTFO!
Yeah fuck outta here pos
Everyone is a mess in some way. It is okay to be messed. What is important is to find happiness and love yourself...work on your health first, rest will find a way.
Fix one problem at a time. Fix the issues with more impact first. In one year come back and thank me!
This! First you should focus on getting to accept yourself. Start with the job, start working out, get an activity outside your job that you always wanted to do but didnât have time/chance. Youâll be more fulfilled as a person and that will attract your partners. Donât expect a bf to fix your problems or make you happy because itâs a lot of work to be interesting for your partner too. You will be fine! We all have been there!
+1 solve your life one by one. Start with your health. If your work situation is not terrible leave it as it is for a bit and focus on solving the others, thatâll be more rewarding. Stop stressing about the relationship part too as you dont have much control over it. Focus on your health, both physical and mental. Try to change your schedule to carve out personal time. Eg. Can you go in and get out earlier every day? Start exercising. Go to a class or just start running, thats easy. Pick up a hobby. Try hobbies. Do them for a few months. If you dont like them, do something else. Youâll meet people and youâll feel better about yourself. Your health will start shaping up much better than expected. Once you feel good about yourself itâll be easier to build friendships. Friendships, new people and happiness will get you relationship at some point. But again cant control the timing on that so dont stress about it. Come back to your career in a year when you feel much better overall.
Meditate to declutter. I am in a similar shoe and it helps a lot. DM me I can help you.
I meditate every day and that's what prevents me from being suicidal. For now I hate my job and changing it is so freaking hard. You know the drill.
@expedia I would like to know more. Can you provide the details here, I am sure others can benefit.
Learn inner engineering. Watch Sadhguru
My life, exactly. Are you in the Bay Area too?
Yes!
We should all meet up
Hey there U aren't alone in feeling this way. We all do sometimes. Know that ur fellow humans are here for u. U sound like u r feeling an existential crisis. Lots of religion have cornered the market on purpose. But purpose is what we make it to be in this life. Let me repeat. In this life. Like Sagan said "we are made of star dust" Literally stars had to die to bring ur beautiful life into existence. Cherish it, love it, fight for it. Long and hard as u can.
Cruelly, love the Sagan quote. Not many people know this though.
Well then Iâll be happy to explain the mechanism to the best of my abilities:)