Why is it so difficult to go beyond a 2nd or 3rd date in this city? It seems guys (maybe girls too - guys would answer that better) lose interest real fast here. Everyone likes to keep things ‘open’! Do you feel this is a city for singles who are looking for serious relationships? Would love to know what people here think. Thanks! Based on some comments below fair to add that I am single, newish to the city, independant, well read, active, super social and won’t get into looks as that seems little too arrogant to me! And yes I do have a bar as I am looking for a serious relationship.
It is a city made up of techbros and incels who’s only pastime consists of leetcoding for hours on end, what did you expect?
Sesttle banned dating in the 1985 freeze act. It is the worst city for singles in the country. (Look it up)
Based on your experience, I am inferring that you are either not good looking or uninteresting to those you are interested in. It’s relative. You are not both as you wouldn’t have gotten first or second dates.
https://www.seattletimes.com/life/wellness/natachi-online-dating-1020/ Tldr: no.
I lived there - it’s literally the worst place I’ve ever lived with regards to dating... and yeah, I’m no where near the only one https://komonews.com/news/local/seattle-is-americas-worst-city-to-find-love-says-national-dating-podcast
Why is it the worst? What if you’re exceptionally good looking with a great personality?
Well... I’ve done fine in other cities and am currently quite happy outside Seattle... the only time I was miserable and struggled was my time in Seattle - so 🤷♂️
It's a city OF singles, definitely not a city FOR singles. Far difference between the two
Lol I’m sure it’s better than Bay Area.
Seattle has a sex ratio favorable to women. If you can’t get past the 2nd or 3rd, it’s something about you or you’d have to lower your standards.
My personal deduction to this is quantity doesn’t relate to quality always! Being totally honest here, I have been told that my bars are too high! But hey I am looking for a serious relationship so I shouldn’t just ‘settle’! And realistically speaking I have tons of single girlfriends and all have the same situation- it can’t be all have something wrong or has the bar too high?
From what you just said, why would you try lowering your initial bar for first date, but keep your original bar for settling. You have more chance to meet good guys, sometime they do not appear to be a good match until later. Good luck finding your SO.
Here's the nuance people may miss. The Pac NW is very individualistic. People get into their own heads and it's about "their" bike rides or "their" runs or whatever you are into. I've found that many folks don't actually like people. They get annoyed when things don't line up just so. Not everyone likes sushi, does that mean she's not good enough? Or, someone may not care for hiking does that mean you don't see them again. But people do want to have sex when they are in the mood or they need a date for holiday party. If people come being authentic and real and accept others for who they are, there would be weddings every weekend. But as soon as couple hits a speed bump they leave. #therapist
This is so real! You just read my mind! :) 100% 👍🏼
Couldn’t have said any better. We have a bunch of folks who optimize for short term benefits over longer term returns. Given some of the long term investments have compounding effects, when left untouched, no one knows the true potential, let alone realizing it.
No.