Currently in mid 30s and been a happy person all my life. Good at studies, good school, good job. Married to a person who is not at all liking me now and giving me hell for the past few years. Spent 6 + years of hell with her. No matter how hard I try to make the relationship workout, seeing no interest from the other side. Life is monotonous, lonely and getting even suicidal thoughts. Thought about divorce many times but lacking the courage or having false hopes that things will work out given spent 7 years in the relationship. Not motivated at all these days to do anything fun. Having impact on work life and flunking on-sites too at other companies. Health spoiled, parents worried. I can't imagine that women can be so rude and harsh. Not sure what the intentions of my wife are, I am feeling bad and sad every single day. How to cope up with this. Feeling like living in a jail with an enemy who is giving hell. Have a house and the spouse does not want to sell. Need some positive advice and at the same time some courage to take the needed course of action.
Google marriedredpill subReddit. Read it apply it. Know when its worth working on something and when its time to walk away. If its later run now. Although if you are the problem and your wife is just a reflection of it then your next relationship will turn out to be the same.
If no kids or anything, seriously consider separation and then divorce. One life, there is absolutely no point in being unhappy.
If two people can't live happily together... You owe it to both of you to separate
Idk man. If the guy feels this is a comfortable avenue, let him have it. People find help in different ways.
This would be a terrible post for FB. Just plain wrong
Location? Depends on the country and society where you reside. Divorce can be a costly affair.
Nothing is more valuable than peace of mind
It will only get more expensive if he waits. Not that that's what matters - living a decent life is way more important than property, especially if you work in tech and can recover financially.
If you have spent 6 years in trying to make things work, please move on.
Seek marriage counseling immediately. Maybe both of you are just incompatible. Based on outcome of counseling, you can decide on next steps. Call suicide prevention hotline if suicidal thoughts persist. 800 273 8255.
If you could not make it work in 6yrs it will not work, if anything you will just get used to the pain. Seek divorce asap, Divorce is expensive coz its worth it.
Do you have kids?
Fortunate or unfortunate no kids yet.
Then Eject OP.